Monday 29 January 2007

I don't like Mondays

Not so happy today, maybe because it is a Monday. I just hate Mondays especially when I sleep late on Sunday night.

I feel like I have the weight of the whole world on my shoulders.

I am thinking about school.

I need a new job.

I need a home of my own. With husband and kids. I am just plain bored of my flat! All I see around me is books, bags, shoes, yoruba films, a few foreign movies, my pictures and that of my entire family. Hey, they all bore me!!!!!!!!!!

Is something wrong with me today, I have been so grouchy. Shouted on the poor lady that asked if she could get me a cup of coffee. Not that she's ever seen me drink coffee in the office before why ask me???????

I shouted on my younger sister as well, she wanted to find out if I saw the dress, told her no. Maybe she didn't hear, she asked again and i SHOUTED NO! Why are you so excited about this wedding sef. Then my sister said to me
''Temmy are you not happy that I am getting married?''. Then I started to cry. I took out my aggression on my sister, of course I am happy that she is getting married, I really am. I love her to bits and I want her to be happy.

My sister then called Ex to report me(they have turned that one into a member of the family). Shey jejely the boy should have just sent me a text to ask me what is wrong. Here is the convo we had:

Ex: Wsup darling, how are you today.
Moi:Fine, and you?
Ex: Fine. Thanks. Errm,,, Molayo just called me.
Moi: To say?
Ex: What do you mean to say? You shouted on her and she is really bitter.
Moi: Is Layo your sister or mine?
Ex: What kind of question is that?
Moi: One that you only can answer now, is she your sister(voice rising now)
Ex: Why are u raising your voice at me woman?
Moi: have told you never to call me woman, how many times................................

After barking at Ex for about 5 minutes. The poor boy said: I am sorry for making things worse this morning. Have a good day. He hung up.

Yeah, just what I need on a Monday morning. Went into the bathroom, cried my eyes out, called my sister to apologise and promised to send her the slippers she's always wanted. That made her happy, greedy somborri!

Dad didn't give me money yesterday lol. Waste of my time and energy in the cold. He only promised to pay half of my ticket fare for the wedding like that is not his responsibility in the first place.

I am taking tomorrow off work, will surely call in sick. I need to do something that will make me happy. I probably will call Ex to apologise if i feel like it.

Sunday 28 January 2007

Clearing The Logs


W was beaten up cos X and her gang(team mates) thought it was planned. Well, so I heard from my informant.

Calabar Gal already told us that we were all taught the act of keeping a man. Some of us don't just put our skills to use. I stand to be corrected.

See Babaalaye running away. Isn't it typical of men to run from sensitive issues?

Trust Prof Miguel : he said Tunde taking bimbo to the hotel is totally wrong. From what I heard they just wanted to go and have some fun outside their regular hangout. Anything wrong with that?

He wants to yab me o. I can't believe that I am scared. Uhmn... words from Miggie.... I am waiting.

I feel a lot berra today, thanks to Bennyln for flu. Tho I am yet to get over the fact that I have to buy another Bio-oil for £15.99. Donations please!

There are some wedding pictures i want to share but mehn, the fotos have refused to attach.

Got a surprise call from Papa Temmy. He is in town to shop for my younger sister's wedding dress.Why he didn't bring the girl or allow mummy to do the shopping still beats me.The guy is always feeling like a fashion guru! Ever since he bought my sister's wedding dress and we were all like this is gorgeous, he made up his mind to buy for the rest of us.
He sure won't buy mine, I don't mind if he disowns me over the issue, but I doubt as the guy will be too happy to see me hooked. He wants me to come over later today and guess what,about 3 of my uncles are in town with him. God help me cos I can see where all this will lead to. I am only going because I know they will grease my palms with some pounds. Temmy is broke!
I just exposed myself to two blogger. One is my life time addiction. You know yourself, don't spill please. The other person is his brother, if you spill you are ruining our chances of getting married! I love you now, shebi you know. In fact I love the two of you and I will go for the one that is first to propose, that way we keep the love in the family. Lol.
Getting ready for my meeting with my dad and uncles.
I got tagged by my girl friend. Says something to make you look busy at work. I suggest you do this tag when office is getting boring. With your boss seeing you tapping the keyboard with frenzy, he'll know you are an asset to the company.
By the way, everyone is tagged. I think we have done this tag before but there is no better way of wasting time........
1. WHAT ARE YOU WEARING?Red top and grey pants.
2. WHAT KINDA UNDERWEAR ARE YOU WEARING? french knickers
3. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? Eji Owuro
4. CAN YOU JUGGLE? Of cos I juggle life, love and school!
5. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Toast and a bottle of coke
6. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOUR WOULD YOU BE? Green
7. HOW IS THE WEATHER RIGHT NOW? Mild
8.LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? My younger sister
9.FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX? Height
10. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT YOU THIS? Very much so
11. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? Definitely
12. HOW ARE YOU TODAY? Just there.
13. FAVOURITE DRINK? Supermalt/bottle of coke
14. FAVOURITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK? Irish Cream- Baileys
15. FAVOURITE LUNCH MEAL? Jollof Rice and Dodo
16. FAVOURITE SPORTS? Soccer
17. HAIR COLOUR? Black
18. EYE COLOUR? Dark Brown
20. TATTOOS OR PIERCING? Neither.
21. STAR SIGN? Sagittarius.
22. FAVOURITE MONTH? December
24. FAVOURITE FOOD? Italian
25. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? Relative Values
27. FAVOURITE DAY OF THE YEAR? 2nd of December ever year.
28. ARE YOU TOO SHY TO ASK SOMEONE OUT? OF COS YES!
29. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS BETTER? Happy endings
30. SUMMER OR WINTER? Winter
31. HUGS OR KISSES? Hugs
32. RELATIONSHIPS OR ONE NIGHT STANDS? Relationships
33. CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA? Vanilla
34. DO YOU WANT YOUR FRIENDS TO WRITE BACK? yes of course
35. WHO IS MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? Everyone I know (hehehehe)
36. WHO IS LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? My Ex
37. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING NOW? None
38. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? come again?
39. FAVOURITE BOARD GAME? Don't do board games
40. WHAT DID YOU DO LAST NIGHT? Watched a movie
41. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING? The challenges of a new day
42. WHICH DO YOU BELIEVE, EVOLUTION OR CREATION? Creation

Saturday 27 January 2007

I am down

Not a very good day for Temmy!

1. I am down with flu. My head hurts. My back is aching.
2. I left my bio -oil and Benylin for flu on the bus! £20 gone just like that.
3. I have been trying to call my mum in Nigeria and line isn't connecting.
4. I cant even eat my fav food. Noodles don finish for house and i forgot to buy.


I DON'T LIKE HOW I FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thursday 25 January 2007

The Evil That Men Do!

I really feel bad using this title for today's posting but make I no lie I am getting tired of men and their antics. I had dinner with two of my girlfriends yesterday, as usual we got talking about MEN.

A friend to one of my girl friends just got ditched after a 10 years relationship. Yeah, she is to blame for staying that long with a guy without being sure of where the relationship is heading to. Anyways back to why I blame the so called guy: the monkey came to the UK for his masters 3 years ago. He still kept in touch with girlfriend who already has her masters and is working with SHELL Petroleum in Port Harcourt.

Of course she wasn't against the idea of the guy going for his masters, she wanted the best for him. Boyfriend stopped calling after some time, excuse being that it is not really easy for him to combine work and school. Girl didn't mind calling him at least she is well off. The guy obviously gave her signs to move on with this silly attitude of his but you know how WE are now, she didn't get the message or rather she chose not to SEE the handwriting on the wall.

Boy got back to Nigeria last December and called girl to say that he doesn't think the relationship will work. Story is let us end this thing we call a relationship. As if that was not enough, he told her a week after that he is getting married this April!

My only advice to the girl is: Strip naked at 1am and curse the guy. Just kidding but then the guy deserves to be cursed.

After that story, another one came up. Of course you know that where 2 or 3 women are gathered story must surely flow.

Case 2

This girl ehn, lets call her Bimbo has been dating Tunde for 4 years. Girl moved to the UK for greener pastures as she had tried everything possible to get a job in Nigeria to no avail. Their plan was that once the guy is ready for them to get married she will come back home, by then she would have made some money to support herself as well. Bimbo always called Tunde every other day since she got into the UK. Initially Tunde too called as often as he could, 6 months later Bims ran back to Naija to see her love, she was back in the country a month after since the boy said their wedding will be in 10 months time.

3 months into the new year, uncle T stopped calling. Bims later found out that Tunde was seeing a calabar girl. Calabar girl ke... I just told her she shouldn't bother to run after the guy he is already hooked. I have a personal score to settle with calabar girls( i have to support my friend).
Calabar girls and their legacy!

She went home last August after she and the guy settled all their wahala on the phone. She got to Nigeria and was staying with at the guy's place, she said at least no girl showed up and she thought all was settled. 5 days into her stay at the guy's place, he told her that he wanted them to go and stay in a hotel all in the name of rekindling their love. Said they got to the hotel in the morning, watching a movie and then his phone rang: he later said that he was going out to see a friend. Mr T did not come back! The idiota went to see the Calabar girl and that one seized his car keys(that is his story). He left Bims at the hotel! He didnt even feel remorse she said, he was just staring at her the next day like a goat that was about to be slaughtered. Oloshi(excuse my french).

Case3

This is about 2 guys jare. Both of them well known to me. Lets call them W and B. W had been dating this girl for some months but was always telling his friends that ''I no too send the babe''. She is hausa, I am Yoruba and I can't marry her. This fateful day they all went to a party and B laced X's (the girl) drink. He later had his way with her. B later told W what he did, they had a nasty bust up and both left the party in anger. W must have realised he really likes X. It dawned on him after she was raped!

X is a girl after my heart because she got about 4 of her friends from University and they went to see W at home. They beat him blue black.


A Quick Note To All My Girl Friends Out There:

A man is just not into you and worth waiting for when he is not calling you. No matter how busy men claim to be there is always someone they talk to who puts a smile on their faces.

A man is just not for you when he is having sex with someone else. It takes a lot to have sex with someone, you just don't wake up and decide I want to have sex with B!

A man that disappears on you is not worth your tears! Don't give him the chance to reject you again. He is gone because he is not good enough for you.

A man that is selfish isn't just worth it. He is a jerk, an asshole, you already have one you don't need another one.

A man that is not proud of you is not just into you. He is a fool. There is a man out there willing to tell it to the mountains that you are HIS!

A man that is breaking up with you is an idiot. He has made it clear that he doesn't need you. There is a man out there that will be happy that you didn't make up with your crappy Ex boyfriend.

Yes, of course you will meet men at different stages of recovering from a broken relationship. If he is into you, my dear he will get over his issues fast and makes sure he doesn't lose you.

My Spirits asks me: where does this put Ex. I answered my spirit: IN HIS PLACE.

Tuesday 23 January 2007

Happy Birthday To My Bunnies!

It is my baby brother's 13'th birthday today. Sure you will wonder why I have such a young brother. He joined the family few years after my other brother joined the saints triumphant. He has brought joy and happiness to the family, spoilt rotten by everyone. Calls everybody by name except for his parents. Being the bay of the family, when he got admission to go to Air force School in Zaria, mummy said NO. No one is going to take her baby away, she'd rather have him go to a day school. Imagine o, that woman sent all of us out of the house all in the name of having quality education. Because of a little ''man'' now, we are bending rules. I have always said parents are partial.

I remember like 3 years ago when my mum compelled my brother to be calling all of us Sister this or Sister that, trust my brother now he said when they are married I will start calling them sister.

It is so funny that when my brother wants to relay a message to any one of us he goes: Temmy, sister Tope said to tell you that she cant make it to the party tonight. (sister Tope in question is 7 or 8 years younger than me o). My brother is something else.

I love him because he is the only one out of my younger ones that tells me he misses me genuinely. Trust the other 2 girls in Nigeria, when they tell me they miss me they surely want something.

One of them was 18 on Saturday the 20th of January. I love my bunnies. My babies are growing up. For a very longtime, Femi and Tobi were on war path. Femi was so content with being the last born/girl that seeing Tobi/boy join the family was like a pain her bum. Now they are best of pals, only God knows how they both did it. I guess it is all part of growing up,maybe.. maybe not.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU:Oluwatobiloba and to you Oluwafemi, a belated birthday kiss. I owe you guys. Remember that you have promised not to tell mummy about this blog o.

My brother told me today that he cant wait for me to marry because Sister Nonye( his best friend's sister) is getting married in July. And that her brother already told him that both of them will be on the train. ''Get married quickly so that I can invite him to be on your train''. Yeah, yeah. Pray hard bro!

TEVA: Who tell you say we don choose wedding date? I told you that we are waiting for time to justify all the undying love.

VERA: There is no new update about HIM. Apart from calling every night, making me laugh my head out with all his ridiculous stories of his encounter with fuel attendants. I cant share the story hun,lest you begin to fancy him. LOL.



A quickie: One of the anonumous bloggers is getting married. I am so tempted to mention her name. She just sent me an email now! I am so happy for her.

A wedding webbie to tantalise your day.
http://www.damisandtoyin.com/

Monday 22 January 2007

Random Talk IV

I got this email from my best friend today. She is a real monkey. She just cracked me up big time. We have been having this issue about me not having her back just because I told her that I may not be her maid of honor come June. You know that Yankee government refused me visa last year and I am not so keen on applying again just yet. Told her to shift the wedding to Nigeria only for the monkey to send me this email this morning.......


MEN ARE BETTER FRIENDS!

Women: A wife was not at home for a whole night. So, the very next morning, she tells her husband that she stayed at her girlfriend's apartment over night. The husband calls 10 of her best girlfriend's and none of them confirm that.

Men: A husband was not at home for a whole night. So he tells his wife the very next morning, that he stayed at his friend's apartment over night. So the wife calls 10 of his best friends: 5 of them confirm that he stayed at their apartments that night, and the other 5 are claiming that he still is there with them!
Men are better friends!!!!

This is not a licence for you to start cheating o!



The Holy Alphabet... This is Beautiful. Whoever came up with this one must have had some Divine Guidance!

Although things are not perfect
Because of trial or pain
Continue in thanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
Even when the times are hard
Fierce winds are bound to blow
God is forever able
Hold on to what you know
Imagine life without His love
J oy would cease to be
Keep thanking Him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
Move out of "Camp Complaining"
No weapon that is known
On earth can yield the power
Praise can do alone
Quit looking at the future
Redeem the time at hand
Start every day with worship
To "thank" is a command
Until we see Him coming
Victorious in the sky
We'll run the race with gratitude
X alting God most high
Yes, there'll be good times and yes some will be bad, but...
Z ion waits in glory...where none are ever sad!


I think this is really uplifting.

Exactly what I need at this point In my life when I decided to add another degree to my kitty. Just that about it that if relationship isn't working at least career must progress. Going for a 3rd one now. I need encouragement o so I wont run back from classes midway. My dad is so cool with the idea, do I blame him he has a doctorate degree. Studying is like a hobby to him. It gives him pleasure. Whereas in my mum's case, when I told her on Friday she started making noise.

Shey o fe di Professor ni?(do you want to become a professor? Don't I really wish?
I see myself up there in a couple of years. And I have to be prepared for the challenges. To be on top of one's career one needs to be academically, spiritually, morally sound. And of course highly intelligent abi? I think I am on course.

Have a pleasant week all.

T-Minx is down with kurukuru abeg show her some love.


Haven't you all noticed that I now play around with colours? I think this is my new hobby. Lol

Friday 19 January 2007

RANTINGS

For lack of what to title today's post let us just say rantings. I have been quite busy since I came in. Started work today, grudgingly. I just wish I have enough money to sustain me for the next 2 months, I would have just gone to Dubai, sunbathing, shopping, eating , sleeping and so on. You don't need to say it I know i am VAIN!

Ehen jare, to the blogs ville ladies, have you an idea the kind of cream to use for stretch marks? I have tried using Cocoa Butter, na so so black I just dey black. I am one of the privileged few with a backside to die for which of cos means that a few stretch marks here and there. Someone suggested Bio Oil, have been using that but no difference. Well, maybe I need to be a little patient cos I just started using that when I was in Nigeria. You know how it is with Nigerians we like instant results, quick money, pass exams without even entering exam room, e.t.c.

As for you VERA: time just dey start now. When did I leave Naija, abeg make the boy try impress me small jare. To be honest, I told my mum yesterday night that I am giving LOVE a break. Told Ex as well that we can start from being friends again. Love I have learnt makes things really complex, God knows that I can do without any complexities in my life right now.

TEMMY'S THEORY:

You know you are in love when you think life can never be the same with the person away from you. I don't feel that way now.

You know you are in love when you know that you can trust your partner without any moment of doubt. I doubt if I can trust him again.

You know you are in love when you get on the plane taking you to another continent and you cry your eyes out until cabin crew thinks you are crazy. I didn't shed a single tear.

You know you are in love when your heart skips a beat when you see his/her number on your phone at 5 am calling to say good morning. When I see his number now, I put phone on silent and go back to sleep.

You know you are in love when you can't say a word of prayer without remembering your partner. The last time I prayed for him was January 1st cos we went to church together.

Bottom line is I think I am in love with love.(am i making any sense, maybe not. I am confused... no!, i am not).

Alright, TIME WILL TELL.

Sensitive Topic:

One of my friends that came here to study has fallen in love with the UK and wants to stay back. She was given different forms of advice from people. She though of sticking to one of them which is: Marry an EU citizen for papers. She of cos will pay the guy for the deal, honestly i do not understand the whole thing.

Anyways, when she told me about it I said to her I do not support the idea mainly because she has to marry the guy in a church! Do you think God will be happy that you are getting married in a church and it is all because of papers. Won't he be angry, I mean well people say in a strange man's land you have o struggle to survive. But isn't this going too far?

I know people do it and get away with it. I told my friend that what if God said that na only once you go marry for your life, and you marry someone that you don't even know anything about and the heavens put a seal on it. When it is time for you to marry and husband no surface, if you start to pray the angels carrying your prayers might tell God that:haba Baba God, this girl got married a while back why is she stressing us.

I think my imagination runs too wild. It is just how I feel. Abeg,wetin una think. My friend is as confused as I am.

Tuesday 16 January 2007

I AM BACK

Yippee.....

I am back in the UK. I came in last night. I slept all through the flight cos I had so much to do Sunday night. I had a mini conference with my parents and EX. He told my parents his version of the story and apologised to both of them for hurting their baby. My father warned us about the dangers of lack of trust in a relationship/marriage. Ex later told my dad that he wants us to get married in SEPTEMBER.

My dad asked him if he already made his intentions known to me as they have no final say on whoever i choose to spend the rest of my life with.

He was going to ask me in the presence of my parents but my mum stopped him and said: O.A you have to be romantic now, take her somewhere you know she loves and ask her again. I am sure she will agree. All the while I was just looking from one person to the other. My mind was in a great turmoil, my eyes heavy from tears I refuse to shed. I kept wondering if my most favourite people in the world are even thinking about HOW I FEEL. By the time they were ready to listen to me. All I could say was: I NEED TIME.

I need time to see if things can be the same again. My mum wants me to stay back in Nigeria so that we can work things out. I refused on the grounds that if I was married to him and i was posted on a foreign assignment will my husband look for someone else to warm his bed for that season.

IF EX can wait till I am ready to come back home all well and good. I didn't tell my parents how difficult it was for me to come to that conclusion tho. To be honest I STILL VERY MUCH LOVE HIM. Not with all the trips I had in Nigeria. All the feed me I feed you theory. Shey the boy was just treating me like a lost diamond that was just found.

I did my best to enjoy the moments jare. Sunday night after the meeting, he suggested going on a drive around Abuja. It was fun, it reminded me of when we first met at Uni. Always in each other's company, acting like love struck idiots all over the campus. We teased ourselves endlessly about how we have both grown over the years, he had some pictures i took in Uni in his wallets. Chineke, i no try way back o. Very skinny little thing, I am still wondering what the boy saw in me then.

I am so tempted to post some of the pictures but then HE will kill me if he ever finds out that I have a blog not to talk of talking about him on the blog.

I missed out on December sales. My sister bought about 5 pairs of shoes at ridiculous prices it is a pity that i wear a size 6, i for steal a pair or two. I have to hit the stores tomorrow, I may be lucky.

I still feel knackered jare. I need to sleep some more.

Time will really tell if HE is the one. In fact I still want him to show me what LOVE is all about. Show me a girl that doesn't want to be shown what love means.

Saturday 13 January 2007

Quickie

My friend and her boyfriend have fixed their wedding date for the 23rd of June 2007. Yours truly of cos is the Chief Bride's Maid. How she called back to accept his proposal is story for another day. E pass me.

I spent the better part of today with EX. Told him we needed to weigh the pros and cons of a comeback. He keeps saying that he still loves me, meanwhile I told him that I don't even think I know what LOVE means. If love means having an affair because I had my back turned for 8 months..... I need to know what LOVE truly means. He has PROMISED to SHOW me.

It is 9.29pm, I need to sleep early if I want to attend the 7am service tomorrow.

@Belle and Vera: I can't leave comments on your blogs.

Drama

The time is 12.17am. I just got in, I am very restless. I should be in bed. I am too excited to sleep.

I went bowling with EX at the Dome. We had fun. We kept looking at each other and smiling. Two of our friends met us there and kept teasing us mercilessly about having signed a contract for life(trust Naija people and their assumed theories).

I took a bottle of Smirnoff Ice, I guess that was the cause of all this drama. I was already feeling tipsy after one bottle. Ex asked me what I think he should do to make me love him again.
I said he can start by kissing my nose.

He picked me up and I had no choice but to wrap my arms around his neck cos I was tipsy. He kissed my nose in front of about 40 Nigerians that were bowling and having their own fun.

Told him it is time to go home as Mama Temmy was calling but I refused to pick up. Because of man I ignored my mum's calls. See my life.

Left the Dome and went to but Suya. He started to feed me suya while telling me that his life can never be the same if I refuse his proposal this second time. I told him not to bother propose cos that way if I say NO it wont hurt him.

We left for my place, time was 11.30pm. Called Mama Temmy to say I was downstairs with EX in his car. She was going to shout but softened when she heard his name. Why cant my own people help me to be strong.(excuses).

We just sat down in the car listening to music as he refused to say anything. He was really staring at me and at some point I thought maybe I had grown an extra head. I couldn't say anything either, there was nothing to say. I was seriously fighting the urge to hug him. (Chineke, I am turning into something else).

At 12 am he said his goodnight and gave me a peck on my forehead. I am very sure that he has achieved his aim.

I am leaving Nigeria on Tuesday............ till then, May God help me.

Thursday 11 January 2007

Boredom....

Truth is I am getting bored!

Spent the better part of today at my tailor's place. Made this out of the world ankara dress. It is one dress to die for, it is a pity I can put up the picture on my blog. Will knack the dress for my friend's wedding in March. Yeepa, them go take.
From Tailor's place, I went to Mr Biggs to buy chicken, ran into an old toaster who paid for the food.

Got home and I started my blog round(this is like an obsession). After blog round, it was nback to boredom again!!!!!!!!!

There are a few things that I have discovered over time about life.

1. The only constant thing is change.
2. Do whatever makes you happy.
3. There is no satisfying the people of this world.
4. Do not sacrifice for love.

The results of sacrificing for love:

When you sacrifice for love and put yourself second in a relationship, you believe inside your heat that your man will end up loving you more. This may or may not happen as what happens most times is that when you sacrifice who you are in order to be loved, you end up loving yourself less!

Each time you give up an interest, a friend, in the hope of winning a man's love, you give away a chunk of your life! The more you sacrifice the less of you that remains until nothing is left. Chineke God make una just help all your girl pickin o.

I was today doing a long list of what to do and not to do in 2007.

1. Thou shall not take too much sugar this year/ coca cola must stop.
2. Thou shall not miss church on Sundays no matter how tired I am.
3. Thou has to cut off every unprofitable friendship ties.
4. Thou shall learn to have more patience in 2007.

Did i tell you that Mama Temmy travelled and left her daughter alone in the house? Imagine o, I have been wallowing in self pity since wondering why she decided to do that to me. Anyways, to God be the glory she don come back o.

Ex just left, tho he spent 30 out of the 40 minutes he spent here dozing as he came directly from work. I already know what the boy is up to, he wants to be in my face and in my thoughts. Good thing is he is getting there gradually but as I dey comot Naija in a couple of days na im be say I don escape his Jazz.

Moment of truth:

I still like him very much.(Don't tell anybody o).


My best friend in the US called me today that her boyfriend proposed to her and she said NO. For crying out loud she has been dreaming to see this day.

Temmy: Why did you say NO now??????????
Tee Baby: I was shocked!
Temmy: Shocked bawo? I thought that was your dream???
Tee Baby: It was, I mean it is. But babes, I am scared.
Temmy: Scared?? You love him don't you?
Tee Baby: I can't leave my job and relocate to Australia. But I love him so badly.My life can never be the same without him.
Temmy: Home is where your husband is remember?
Tee Baby:.Can I call him back to accept?
Temmy: what are you waiting for APE?

I disconnected the call, see me see wahala o. Will keep you posted. I am feeling sleepy. From my rantings you can see that I am BORED................

Wednesday 10 January 2007

Random Talk 3

Veralicious Vera! You are on my mind now, as a matter of fact I have not been able to sleep well. Na your thoughts full my head.(Don't you just wish) lol. To be honest, running into the Ex at the airport is the cause of all this wahala o.

At this particular point I do not want to say wether I may or may not be rekindling the fire of ''love''. Yeepa! Did i just say that???

After the ''kiss'', he left. I went back upstairs, soaked myself in the bath tub for hours. I was fighting so hard with my emotions. I realised I was very firm with him when he came to the UK cos I was still hurting. Now that I no longer hurt, it is as if I am now vulnerable. I am counting days to leave Nigeria lest I fall flat on my face.....

Cherub: I actually enjoyed kissing him. Remember i did that for 5 years now.
Diamond Hawk: when are you going to start your novel.
Oro: uhmnnnnn...... i will be a good gal.
NaijaBloke: wetin you de talk. Nothing go happen.

There was a major family meeting on sunday after my sister's wedding date was picked. Remember that my cosuin in the US was summoned to Nigeria cos of her ''single status''. The meeting was because of the two of us. My cousin made it clear that she is willing to get married if it will make all of them happy. And guess what: she announced to the family that she has met a 55 year old man in the US that has 2 kids from a previous marriage. My aunt nearly fainted from shock but that has kept them quiet. they agreed she can take her time to find a young man. Ma famille est fantastique!


Why are men the way they are?

1 Hav you wondered why men prefer to drive around for hours rather than stop to ask for directions?
2. Have you suspected that the men that try to control you are secretely afraid of the power you have over them.

3. Ever wonder why men get so upset when they are trying to concentrate on something and you get them to pay attention to you?

4. Ever wondered why he is playing macho and insisting that everything is fine when he has a lot running through hs mind?

5. Have you ever wondered why men are so protective of their cars?

Men have been taught to be:

Defensive and Suspicious. We want them to be trusting and OPEN!

Hide their emotions We want them to show their emotions

Appear strong and unconquerable We want them to express their vulnerablity.

Competitive We wnat them to be cooperative.

Independent We want them to feel their need for us.

Stay in control We want them to let go of control.


Isnt that what women want? I think Nigeria is making me feel mushy! England here I come.

The mail i pasted below was sent to my hi5 account. It was out of boredom 2 days ago when I remembered that I have an account with hi 5. I just have to share this email. It cracked me up big time.


HOW ARE U?I HOPE U ARE FINE AND COOL. FRANK IS MY NAME,I AM 25 YEARS,SINGLE AND LOOKING FOR A GAL FOR A LOVELY N NICE RELATIONSHIP. I AM A HIGHLY EDUCATED GUY,A SEXY AND FIT BLACK GUY,CURLED BLACK HAIR,BROWN EYES,5.10FT,AVERAGE BULIT. I AM A STUDENT AT THE MIDDLESEX UNIVERSITY OFFERING BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION,A TRAINEE MANAGER AT ROYAL MAIL AND A DJ FOR A RADIO AND NIGHT CLUBS. I AM A GHANAIAN BUT I WAS BORNED N RAISED IN LONDON AND I LIVE WITH MY THREE LOVELY SISTERS IN LONDON SO U CAN VISIT ME AT ANY TIME OR DAY. I SAW UR AD AT THE HI5 AND I DECIDED TO WRITE U COS I REALLY LOVE UR INTEREST AND I WISH TO KNOW U BETTER IF U DON'T MIND. I DON'T HAVE A PIC COS MY SCANNER ISN'T WORKING I AM A FRIENDLY,LOVING,CARING,GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR,I LOVE CLUBBING,READING,TRAVELLING,DANCING,SINGING,SEX,MUSIC. U CAN ASK ME ANY QUESTIONS AND I WILL SURELY ANSWER ALL. I WILL END HERE WITH MUCH LOVE AND KISSES TO UR SEXY LIPS. TAKE CARE OF URSELF AND HAVE A NICE DAY LOVE, FRANK DO WRITE SOON..U CAN CALL OR TEXT ME ON 07931314634,SWEETNESS NO PRANK OR PRIVATE CALL N U CAN LEAVE ME A TXT N I CALL


Monday 8 January 2007

NA TRIPPING O

Sorry peeps,I have been Naija trotting ni o. I should have updated my blog.Vera abeg no vex as I no want get belle outside wedlock.


Left for Lagos last Friday to see my sister and her husband. Those two ''things'' decided to put a whole me London gal on okada! My sister picked me up from the airport and she dropped me at the entrance to her estate cos she was running late for work, you need to see TEMMY on Okada. Story for another day. Lagos has turned my Ajebota sister to Paki.LOL.

Had a swell time tho,went for a vigil on Friday night with my cousin and her husband. My cousin told me that unless i forgive EX and release him from my heart that it may be difficult to love someone else. Come see as Temmy dey pray fervently.

Uhmn: my younger sister will be getting married in March. All road go lead to BABA TEMMY'S House come first Saturday of March 2007.It is a pity that yours truly will be absent due to circumstances beyond my control.

As per Ex and I... Uhmn....... I just have to confess that I was absolutely furious and jealous the day he came with his date. He called me back a day after to come pick him from work. I was bored and i decided to pick him up.... After waiting for him for about 10 minutes he came out with one of his colleagues who nearly kissed me on the mouth all in the name of giving me a peck.

You need to see the killer look that Ex gave his friend, playing along I chose not to say a word about the incident till i dropped him at home. I dropped him off and headed home only for my gate man to call my room to say oga O.A dey downstairs.

Downstairs ke? What is he looking for at this time of the night was the first question that crossed my mind. Or maybe he left some of his things in my car, I rushed downstairs only to see him pacing up and down my living room like he paid part of the money for the blocks used in building my house.

Temmy: ki lo de o.
Ex: I erm...didn't you see that u nearly kissed Mo this evening.
Temmy: (feigning ignorance) really? He was happy to see me and so was I.
Ex: Did you greet me the same way when I saw you at the airport?
Temmy: well maybe because I wasn't particularly happy seeing you.

He cut the conversation up by kissing me.
Boy, have I missed him???
Truth be told I did not kiss him back o, I only held him for 2 minutes.

Desola: crucify me!

Have I not released him from my heart? Have I not????

Wednesday 3 January 2007

7 Whole Days!

Well, it has been seven whole days and i have not checked my mails or the blogsville!
That is just to tell you that Nigeria is fun!

I had a really hectic time packing the day i left as my sister that was meant to help with the packing was in faraway Portsmouth with her boyfriend. I got my self to airport on time,trying to avoid the madness that all the cancelled flights had caused. I got a little taste of the chaos but thank God that we eventually boarded at 10.30pm and Left the UK at some minutes past 11pm for a flight that was meant to be 10.15pm.

Mild drama:

I fainted during the flight, i was feeling very dizzy from sleep. I got up to go to the toilet to remove my shirt(s). I wore like 2 camisoles and a thermal wear before wearing my shirt!
Stepping on the aisle, i went down and it was the effect of my head banging onto the igbo man sitting by my side that woke me up. Again, I successfully disgraced my self on an international flight. The cabin crew really fussed over me,wanting to know if i was expecting a baby? Did i drink too much wine and all .................. thank God i survived. I have learnt another lesson.
My family did not know i was coming cos i was planning to stay awhile in a hotel with my cousin that was coming from the states, just imagine if I had died on that flight. Few blogs back I told you her story, she has been summoned home so that they can find her a man. Since we were in the same shoes we decided to share ''strength''.

Got to Nigeria and guess who I saw at the airport??? EX OF COS! He came to pick his cousin who just flew i from the UK too, same flight with moi,in fact she sat in front of me. I was going to pick a cab from the airport anyways but God don butter my bread na free ride straight to the hotel.

We all ended up going to the cinema together on Saturday night. Ex came with a date, his cousin and mine decided to do a twosome and i was all by myself. Wicked people! The four of them laughed so hard at my fainting skills. Silly apes they all are. Anyways, we had fun but the green monster in me kept showing it's head. I was flipping jealous. Did he do that intentionally??? Monkey.

To be continued jare, i am going out with MAMA TEMMY.