Sunday, 27 September 2009

10 Things I Learnt From Marriage.....

The things I have learnt from marriage are so many that I have lost count.

1. I grew up in a house where cooking wasn't something I have to do. There were cooks,maids and all sort. Tho my mom is not the type to spare the rod and spoil the child. But now in boo's house na to cook and mehn......

2. I am naturally an Internet abi computer freak. I can spend the whole day in front of the laptop and not get bored. I really do not know why my husband complains.....haba i am so good at multitasking.

3. I hate night crawling. I don't do clubs/bars/cinemas e.t.c. Cinema sha,I can manage if we are to see comedy or maybe Naija film.( I am boring abi). So I followed my boo to a karaoke bar and I succeeded in disgracing myself. Fist, I didn't want to enter cos I thot there were too many people(I am naturally shy). After spending about 10minutes outside I summoned courage and I went in. Oh well, I had fun. There was a day we went to the cinema, we went to see Ocean's 13...I slept off at the 3rd scene and woke up just about when they were showing credits for the movie.Haha...i have never seen my husband so miffed in his lifetime. Instead of him to thank God that I did not snore in the cinema.

4. I'd rather keep to myself than talk to people around me when I am in one of my ''moods''. That is when my mum or mother in law or sis or brother in law will just decide to pop in !Bummer!

5. I can kill people for dropping clothes everywhere in the house but my baby does it. Once he gets in from work, he drops his jacket right in the living room. The annoying thing is he is still going into the room to undress. Can somebody help me ask why he has to drop that one first?

6. For the past 15 years or more I don't go to bed without having a shower, even when I was living in the UK with that frigging weather I no dey miss my nightly ritual. I had totally begged God to give me a man that will also do the same every night. Alas, no be so o. When I ask boo if he isn't going to shower he goes " there is AC in my car and AC in my office so I have not been sweating.

7.I have learnt to be very prudent! The regular/normal Temmytayo buys whatever she fancies when ever she deems fit. But now, I think about my son first, then my husband, then the house and then myself. Very sad abi?

8.I have learnt how to deal with my friends better now. Some will call and abuse and complain about their husbands and trust me na so i go dey follow them blame their husbands. Until the day my hubby sat me down for a long talk on the importance of ''minding your won business'' in marriage. I must say it was a lecture I can never forget.

9. Hand don dey pain me o and it is 12.49 am Sunday morning. I gast so sleep so i can wake up on time for church.


Tuesday, 22 September 2009

Here is to us...with love unending!

Here's to US!!!!

No matter what our kids and the new generation think about us,

To Those of Us Born
1930 - 1979

At the end of this note is a quote of the month by Jay Leno.. If you don't read anything else, please read what he said.

Very well stated, Mr. Leno.

1930's, 40's, 50's,
60's and 70's!!

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered
with bright colored lead-base paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads.

As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.

Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And, we weren't overweight.. WHY?

Because we were always outside playing...that's why!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on..

No one was able to reach us all day. And, we were OKAY.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps
and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Play stations, Nintendo's and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150

channels on cable, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, no cell phones,
no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms.

WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping pong paddles, or just a bare hand and no one would call child services to report abuse.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and a pink ball and, although we were told it would happen, we did not poke out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team.
Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment.

Imagine that!!
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.

The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all.

If YOU are one of them, CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good.

Saturday, 5 September 2009

Is Marriage By Force?

Sometimes I wonder why people think living abroad is the best thing that can happen to them. I know women that will die or most likely kill to marry a '' citizen''. Abeg, i need someone to tell me what the biggie about this is.

So I know this babe who is married with four kids. She has always wanted to marry a citizen and in fact a British one at that. At least we all know that with a British Pali you have less stress in going in nad out of other major developed countries. Anyways, her prayers were answered and she met Britico whom she married in less than 2 months.

They both moved to the UK, guy bought a 4 bedroom house, she got her passport,popped four in quick succession. Sad thing is as the years rolled bye, the marriage was dying gradually. First, the husband stopped paying bills, he later added the kids upkeep to his list of ''don't bother to do''. I mean, we all know that kids don't pay in the formative years for most basic things but shey na government go also buy them clothes and take them to Nandos or MacDonald's.

Since she kuku knew her motive right from the onset, complaining to people was really difficult. So she started suffering and smiling at the same time. What a life. Why bother to marry when your husband will never stay at home, why marry a man that doesn't care whether you go to work and never come back, why live with a man that will travel outside the country without telling you and he comes back in to the home like he just went to buy newspaper at the corner shop.

To make matters worse, husband sold the house one day and moved them all to a 2 bedroom flat in the outskirts of London. Bummer! He was smart enough to know that if she asks for a divorce there is every possibility that she gets the house or at least half of the guy's property.

As if that was not enough, after selling the house without her consent of course, he got a job in Canada, bought a pad and moved there without telling her! He just left the house like he normally does until a friend of the family saw him in Canada and informed the wife.

The good thing is he still maintains a solid relationship with his kids as he calls them often and he makes sure he buys them stuff anytime he decides to pop in to London. He has not asked his wife for a divorce and wife doesn't want to be labelled a divorcee either so she is taking things in stride. She is a married widow with a British passport! She can go to any country of her choice but she is not happy. She cries herself to sleep most times but that doesn't change anything. Sad...

Oya, tell me is it by force? There are a million women out there that despite hearing stories like this are still going to make the same mistake. It hurts me when I meet such women or even men hurts!