tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49984527574643147192024-03-13T12:22:53.192+01:00temmytayo212My random musings. Posting may not be frequent. I blog as the spirit leads. I am going to love this blog more than the former one for fear of losing it again.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.comBlogger164125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-79756275574485862152010-10-20T22:57:00.002+01:002010-10-20T23:22:13.128+01:00Funny How Time Flies......I appreciate everyone that stopped by to encourage me. You guys are the reason I am back here today(red face and blushing). I am really trying to get my groove back on. Thanks guys.<br /><br />Yeah,Monday the 18th marked 3 years that I started that journey called marriage with my boo. It has been 3 years of fun, fights, arguments,he has made me cry, he has made me consider snuffing the life out of him via pillow suffocation some times. Well, I guess this is what marriage is all about. Learning to live with and accommodate each other's weaknesses and even strengths.<br /><br />In my heart I know that another man wouldn't do it for me...I LOVE MY HUSBAND! But why cant men just understand what women want. Why cant they just get it that we are supposedly the weaker sex and we need to get away with some things. for me i find it totally annoying and frustrating when my husband wants to hang out on a Friday night. I don't like going out and i;d rather we both stay at home. he is the opposite and maing him stay at home is like getting out 2 year old to pound yam! He becomes restless and it pisses me off. Truth be told,I thought I was going to get over it but no it still annoys me any Friday he decides to rebel by hanging out. Am i being unfair? IS he not supposed to be doing what makes me happy?<br /><br />Before marriage, I was so scared of pre marital sex mainly because I had this nagging thought that I was going to get pregnant and then my parents would kill me! That thought followed me through my Uni days and you can bet i lost a few relatiosnhips due to my stand. <br /><br />I can remember vividly that on my wedding night, i told myself that now that i have been given the certificate to let go I was going to make up for the lost years(lol)<br />But hey I am yet to fulfill that fantasy. I get too tired after work to even think of sex which is damn right annoying!<br /><br />And to make matters worse little Temmy sleeps right on our bed and in the middle. He has perfected his sleeping position so excellently that if his dad tries to cross over him to my side of the bed he springs up like and athlete. I just wonder if the boy sleeps at all, he couldn't be pretending to be sleeping now abi?<br /><br />I have been advised to bounce him from our room but hey...I am so attached to him and i am so confused. ever heard of being in love with two men? I guess that is my dilemma. Help!!!!!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com63tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-69628338322745221502010-10-12T20:17:00.002+01:002010-10-12T20:29:27.945+01:00I Still Can't Get The Vibes....I promised myself and a few friends that I was gong to start bogging again,i think i made that promise under duress oh! It has been one hell of a week,trying to juggle being a mother, a wife, well plus being a slave for the Lagos State Govt too. It is not fun cos i am not a super woman.<br /><br />One minute,I get the idea of what to blog about and the next minute you hear little Temmy screaming ''mommy'' I want food! Just as that is being settled, its my phone ringing or a text message to remind that I should be at work early for a meeting. Urgh! Not forgetting the fact that the Mr doesn't get enough attention like he used to. Now that is story for another day.......<br /><br />Ok,I am officially totally random jare. I think the best thing I have done to this blog is to even put a few things down today, I am hoping the vibes would come back quickly. I miss blogging and I miss blog world.<br /><br />Ciao......temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-981664488473451962009-12-27T17:12:00.000+01:002009-12-27T17:30:54.782+01:0010 Things No One Told Me About Marriage...Five, 10, 15 years ago, it was all white lace and promises. You were young(not necessarily these days), dewy—and a little bit dumb. Who knew about all the things you would find out later?<br /><br />Since I’ve been married for 2 years, I’ve been elected to dig up some of the truths about married life. I had some ideas of my own, but I also polled a bunch of my long-married friends. They told me that over the years, their eyes had been opened—and it has not always been pleasant.<br /><br />1. Weird in-laws get even weirder over time. And your kids will inevitably inherit some of the traits of your weird in-laws. Got a nonstop talker? An attention hound? It’s probably not hard to figure out who she takes after.<br /><br />2. Your hubby may be a great guy, but beware: Once he slips that ring on your finger, you’ve adopted his family—not just the immediate family, but every long lost cousin too. That’s a lot of people who could show up uninvited for Thanksgiving dinner or ask for a loan (“just until payday”). Even the ones that thinks asking you for your car for two days should go down well with you.<br /><br />3. Though he never snored before, he might after you’re hitched. Take a tip from a couple I know, and to solve this problem rather than fight non stop just buy ear plugs or kuku remove your own ears.<br /><br />4. There are two schools of thought on birthdays: the “it’s not a big deal” school and the “yay for meee!” school. The former gets a card. The latter celebrates the Season of the Birthday, which can go on for quite a long time, like Chanukah or Advent. Figure out which one you’re married to, and be ready. I am lucky that mine remembers my birthday and he tries to make the day extra special.<br /><br />5. It’s better to keep listening to those stories and laughing at those jokes rather than remind him he’s told them to you a million times (this from a 41-year veteran of listening to old stories). Life is short, even though those stories aren’t. Deal with it.<br /><br />6. Yes, you can go to bed angry. You may hate him at that moment, but no one really deserves the backache you get from sleeping on the couch. If you were married to my husband I can assure he'd forget that you are not even in bed with him. <br /><br />7. We all do stuff differently. You may be married to one of those guys who thinks that the way to wash dishes is to (gack!) soak them in a sudsy sinkful of water, then rinse them off. If this isn’t your way, it’s not worth arguing about it. Just be glad he’s doing the dishes.<br /><br />8. Your husband really doesn’t remember your clothes. If you call attention to anything new, you’re a fooling your self...let's say he'll stare blankly into space and then nod his head.<br /><br />9. It is amazing how many disagreements, crummy moods and disappointments can be temporarily glossed over with a plate of good food.<br /><br />10. Are you on the same page about the empty nest? If he loves the idea of moving to Lekki for the serenity and the early-bird special and you’re all about the mainland so you won't miss your hair appointment at Bobby's or Make Me then you’re in trouble. Either that or you’ve got to do what you’ve done so many times already: compromise. Move to Lekki and get stuck in traffic daily then you'd complain afterwards.<br /><br /><br />Ok, all said above doesnt necessarily apply to Temmytayo but I am sure we can all relate. Happy New year in advance peeps.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-89998750840039891172009-12-23T23:56:00.002+01:002009-12-24T00:24:23.995+01:00Say Something Nice ....MEME!Hee hee, I was jejely blog hopping since I do not have anything to blog about. So, i hopped into SOLLOMONSYDELLE's blog and there i caught the bug.<br /><br />Here are the rules:<br /><br />1.Name 5 bloggers<br />2.Say something nice about each of them<br />3.Tag them by linking to them in your meme, and visiting their blog to announce that they have been tagged<br />4.Those tagged, cannot repeat any of the bloggers mentioned by the person who tagged them (sorry, that way more bloggers can get mentioned and not just the same popular ones)<br /><br />So, here we go:<br /><br /><strong>Bimbylads</strong>: this babe na omo pupa otherwise known as yellow paw paw. We met years back in the blog world only for us to jam again at a wedding where we rocked our selves to stupor. Can I forget, how much fun I had going for her wedding, or the day we hung out at the west end with other bloggers....her craze nature just came out in one word. Love,this babe.....<br /><br /><strong>PrincessYayi</strong>: this one na original monkey.We grew up together, I initiated her into the world of blogging. We have shared so many highs as well as low times but in all she has remained true to herself and true to friendship. Her blog shows the madness that runs in her blood. Love u half way monkey...<br /><br /><strong>Life Of A Stranger Called Me</strong>: a fantastic blogger that doesn't hide her love for God. She can go to any extent to let the whole world know about who she serves. Her posts always reminds me about the awesomeness of God...Love u plenty.<br /><br /><strong>Vera Ezimora:</strong> Vera as we all know is fantastic as well as extremely funny/naughty. I DO NOT LIKE her and she knows. I can't remember the last time she called me tho I have never been able to understand why we get along so well. We have never seen but when we talk or when i read her posts...it is as if I have known her all my life. 3 gbosas for you Vera!!<br /><br /><strong>Soul:</strong>Soulful soul....all the poems....I miss her blog.<br /><br /><br />Let the tagging continueeeeeeeeeeeetemmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-3734094110474483652009-12-12T09:30:00.002+01:002009-12-12T09:46:26.718+01:00Ha, My nipples hurt!Yeah, seriously they hurt. And that is no thanks to little temmy that can not go to sleep without twitching and pressing and turning my nipples. I wonder where he got that nasty habit from. Now he has even graduated into the level of wanting and ''trying'' this act in public places.<br /><br />Last week in church, the boy was trying to sleep and before you can say ''jack'' he don dey rub my breast through my blouse. Imagine!! I looked round before slapping that his tiny hand away...kai!<br /><br />His modus operandi once it's time to sleep is to balance on my chest as he never slept in his cot for one day, then start pressing and pulling and tugging and whenever i wince in pain...he smiles or sometimes laugh out loud. <br /><br />There are times when he wakes up in the middle of the night to look for breast to lull him back to sleep. Once he moves to his dad and realises that there is no mound there, his eyes will snap open in 1 sec to look for the original. <br /><br /><br />Help, before I become nipple less oh.<br /><br />On a lighter note, yours truly added another year on the 2nd of this month. Now I really feel old. I know I am moving closer to 40 by the minute even if i still have 9 years to do that. I know that this may sound so ''not right'' but hey it is my opinion and it is my blog.lol.. Why do single girls rush and nearly want to kill themselves to get married? Fine, marriage is fun with the right person but the RESPONSIBILITY......dang!<br /><br />It is so scary to know that I have to take care of two boys. Both dying for attention at the same time, one wants milk at the same time the other wants food. Hey, i am not an octopus. Just one child and i am complaining. Women with 3 or more abeg how do you do it. I am planning an all by myself retreat early next year. I need to find myself again!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-59307780084347777582009-11-20T20:19:00.002+01:002009-11-20T20:30:15.025+01:00If you caught your husband and maid in the act.....Hello peeps,<br /><br /><strong>May I state clearly here that I DID NOT CATCH MY HUSBAND WITH OUR MAID O.</strong><br />I saw this article in the Vanguard Newspaper of today the 20th of November(I had to quote the date for the doubting Thomases to confirm)lol<br /><br />Ehen jare, the article of course caught my attention and I thought it would be fun to know the opinions of blogville!<br /><br /><em>Maybe I should be the first to comment sef:</em><br /><br />First, I don't think I'd employ a maid that will be so grown enough to catch my boo's attention. And i am talking of big boobies(pardon my french), extremely humongous backside and a figure to die for. Isn't that just like leaving fire on my roof over night?<br /><br />If after scaling first hurdle, he still decided to taste out of her porridge(using Nkenna Naija's rep in BB Revolution's words) then 2 things will surely happen.<br /><br />1. I will skin the maid alive. She needs the mark to serve as a lesson to her generation yet unborn.<br /><br />2. I will cut off boo's ''thing''.<br /><br /><br />Ok, I admit that may be a little mean but mehn, are there really men out there that will sleep with the maid and then jump on madam later same day? They sure suck and should roast in hell fire.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-42064148498582572802009-11-15T17:53:00.002+01:002009-11-15T21:01:46.798+01:00Randomz Part 6Peeps,<br /><br />I am so confused. And to imagine I am confused over what to wear for a parry???? My brother in law's introduction is this coming weekend and I have no flipping idea what to wear. I was gonna do my ankara dress which of cos is a design out of this world only for the bride's family to decide that we have to use ''gele'' and the colour is turquoise blue! My ankara is pink and black and it doesn't even blend! Why do they have to do this to me? Why? Abeg does anybody know any other colour I can mix with the turquoise?<br /><br />Then, thinking about what the Super Eagles put me through just before Mozambique handed us the ticket to the World cup is another thing. I nearly had high blood pressure. Was screaming along with the Nigerian coach..You would have thought the boys can actually hear me from the comfort of my living room.<br /><br />Now as I type this the under 17 Nigerian boys wants me to have heart attack. Playing rubbish eesh. Can someborry wake lil Temmy up please.....he has been sleeping for about 3 hours now and it is 8pm. No sleep tonite that is but God knows that is for his dad because I am so going to turn my back on the two of them!<br /><br />To more interesting news,remember my friend that was in an abusive relationship? I bless God for separating them and oh well Nigeria just lost to Switzerland so I may have to sign off here. Sob Sob....temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-22651644548009716162009-11-06T21:19:00.000+01:002009-11-06T21:19:33.372+01:00Naughty By NatureHee hee,<br />
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Now I believe I am a naughty girl.I have done so many naughty things this week that even me, dey shocked at myself.lol<br />
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Earlier this week, I woke up with a terrible cold, sneezing so badly that I was so sure my lungs might come out. How did the cold even start sef. My maid started coughing like a cat and I kinda immediately gave her medication as she will the one taking care of lil Temmy.<br />
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Before you can say Jack, Lil Temmy has started sneezing and since he believs that the best way to show me love is to either kiss me(which most times is laced with saliva) or sneeze/cough right in my face/mouth. And before you know it I caught the bug too. And for me, once I am down with cold, it must take it course of a week or so no matter what medication I use. But then I love the effect ''actifed'' has on me. It makes me float in between consciousness and unconsciousness, I swear it makes me happy.lol<br />
So I took actifed and was totally knocked out, by morning I was still feeling weak and drowsy but I had to go work. Got to the office and was feeling mad sleepy and weak. I had to think of the best excuse to get off work, and as you all know that God blessed me with a functioning brain now: it only took me 10 minutes to perfect what my plan was gonna be.<br />
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Plan A: Look for a dust filled area and inhale dust which will definitely trigger the cattarh. Luck being on my side, I didnt need to do that at all as the office cleaner just chose that moment to dust the cabinets. Oh my, I stood by to inhale as much as possible. And the sneezing started.....I sneezed so hard that i was sure my lungs were gonna pop out. Walked to my Manager's office still sneezing so hard. He didnt bother to ask me anything he just said " go home''. I am so sure the guy thot i just caught swine flu.<br />
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I also did another naugty one....i sent a text to my hubby to say that I did home pregnancy test and it was positive! I am still not sure how boo managed to get back home in one peace,wether he walked on his head or he flew home.<br />
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I kept a straight face all through the questioning phase.<br />
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<i>Boo: How did this happen, I thought I erm we have been very careful.<br />
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Temmy:(keeping a straight face) I don't know oh.<br />
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Boo: But, we always use protection now.<br />
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Temmy:(about to laugh now but had to cover up with a cough) Yeah I know but things happen.<br />
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Aight, enough gist cos I know he will kill me if he ever sees this post.<br />
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So, me thinking I was very smart kept the strip that I used for the test hoping that he won't ask to see it. I don forget say na lawyer I marry. I dunno why lawyers have a knack for wanting to know everything sha. You need to see the way he interrogates me atimes and I wonder if he thinks he is in court or something. Sometimes I bless God that he doesn't even do litigation because I doubt if I can ever get away with any ''white'' lie.<br />
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Ehen, as I was saying he saw the strip where I hid it and the cat was let out of the bag but for me the best moment was when he sat down to question me. His expression will remain classic and priceless till kingdom come.lol<br />
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Excuse the typo peeps. I honestly cant find the icon that does the spell check and yours truly can't be bothered....temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-64280147230584149942009-10-31T09:05:00.002+01:002009-10-31T09:28:34.967+01:00Kissing and Telling.....we all do it!I am just a dry babe at the moment. I get too tired from work so bad that I just eat <br />
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Then someone graciously tagged me and I thought to myself just blog about this joo and stop being lazy. Life is all about variety now, so we shall deviate from the normal gbeborun and just deal with this....lol<br />
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1.My last kiss......was with my boo and little boo (his was filled with saliva and dribble tho)<br />
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2. I am listening to.......sonny with a chance on Disney Network.<br />
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3. I talk........a lot. At home, with friends and most importantly with boo. I am sure sometimes he wishes I can just go mute. lol<br />
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4. I love.......God, me, boo, my son and of cos anyone reading this.<br />
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5. My best friends .....they know themselves now abi.<br />
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6. My first real kiss........was in Uni.<br />
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7. Love is..........from the heart.<br />
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8. Marriage is........a job but love makes it easier in a way.<br />
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9. Somewhere, someone is thinking..........I am going to give Temmytayo a million naira.<br />
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10. I'll always be grateful for..........what God has brought me through.<br />
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11. The last time I really cried was because...........I didn't have a job and i was tired of staying at home.<br />
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12. My cell phone.........is a blackberry. Hee Hee.<br />
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13. When I wake up in the morning............I first say a word of prayer then study my bible.<br />
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14. Before I go to bed.......... I shower, pray and count sheep before sleeping off.<br />
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15. Right now I am thinking about..........stopping this and getting ready to go to the gym.<br />
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16. Babies are..........God’s gift. We should handle with great care.<br />
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17. I go on face book everyday.........i look out for new pictures really.<br />
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18. Today I..........will be going to the gym. Make lunch and then read some books I have been trying to read since Jan last year.<br />
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19. Tomorrow I will be........in church for 7 am, come back home and sleep!<br />
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20. I really want to be........what God has planned for me to be. He is not done with me yet.<br />
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21. Someone that will most likely re post this is.....all of you now.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-28365432436549907142009-10-18T15:59:00.003+01:002009-10-18T16:09:20.361+01:002 years today, I am grateful to God.Funny how time flies.<br /><br />It is exactly two years today that I have been living with and loving my boo. Marriage is a good experience when the hand of the Lord is in it.<br /><br />Today I remember how much I badly wanted to marry my Ex. Peeps that are familiar with my tales will surely remember how I cried, wailed, sobbed and did all sorts when Ex decided to throw away the 5 years we spent together.<br /><br />To cut it all short, I bless God for the 2nd of April 2007 when I spoke with boo for the first time and couldn't get over his ''voice''. I guess I became hooked on that voice since then. Ours was like a fairy tale. We met and married under 6 months and till today I bless God that I did allow myself to listen to God and not my heart.<br /><br />I have not been the perfect wife but God gave me a man that sees my weakness and still chose to be my strength.<br /><br />Thank you boo! Luv, luv and luv you.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-21826040873218827502009-10-13T19:11:00.002+01:002009-10-13T19:52:01.184+01:0010 questions for the single and married.....To everyone that did me the honours of passing through this page to congratulate me.... I appreciate thee. Ese pupo, thank you!<br /><br />Training isn't so much fun at the moment joo but I can't possibly complain now. I shall let you know as things unfold in my new environment.<br /><br />Back to the questions, here we go:<br /><br />1. Why do single girls feel or think that married men are their best choice when it comes to boyfriends or future husbands. I personally think that a man that hides you from his wife and tells you in confidence that he doesn't love his wife anymore but you is only a lying bastard!<br /><br />2. Why do we enjoy criticizing other peoples decisions about their life partners. How is it our business if Miss O decides to marry Mr A because he is from a comfy home? Shebi na their cup of tea be that now. Trust someborry like me I must talk oh. But I have changed sha,now I will wait till they start to beat themselves before I now say ''shebi I told you''. May God forgive me.<br /><br />3. Why does it come easy to people to just believe that marriage will bring an end to loneliness? Kai, it doesn't work like that. I have this friend that feels that she is lonely now cos she is not married. I know and i have heard of married people that hardly talk to one another. If you find it difficult to relate with people in your single state then being married wont make any difference.<br /><br />4. Why does it become so difficult in abusive relationships either mental or physical feel they wont find happiness again by leaving the scums battering them? Na by force? Is it until the man beats the daylight out of her?<br /><br />5.Why does letting go of our body weight come easy to married women, especially after the first child. I am sure that a lot of women actually notice that they pile on weight in the stomach area. I am so guilty of this, initially i was bothered and i started exercise but now I have relaxed and my tummy looks as if i will be popping soon! Imagine if i was single, would i have allowed that?<br /><br />6. Does being ''happily married'' makes anyone the judge and lord of someone else's marriage? This brings me to my Uncle B who feels that every man must behave like him to have a good marriage. Just beacuse he cheats on my aunt bit he settles her big time with cars, trips abroad and what ever she desires.<br /><br />7. Why is it so difficult to move an after a breakup? I mean......<br /><br />8. Why do we all want to use blackberry? <br /><br />9. Why did i choose to blog about this sef by the way. Maybe writers block is affecting moi...<br /><br />10. Thank God I made it up to 10. Ciao!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-42542046249311412022009-10-09T17:48:00.003+01:002009-10-09T18:11:23.585+01:00He never fails, it may tarry but it shall surely come to pass....Chei,<br /><br />Shebi y'all know that i have been job hunting for a while now right? God has done it at last. After 6 months of staying at home my God surprised me in a way that I am yet to comprehend.<br /><br />In the past months i have gone for interviews and when i say interviews I mean INTERVIEWS! From 1st stage to 3rd stage and yet nothing to show for it.Lol. Dropped CV with practically every body in Lagos and I was even duped once by one silly recruitment agency like that oh. Hee(what pple will do for 419 in Naija is amazing). Thunder will fire the yansh of the owner of that agency, can I hear somebody say amen please.<br /><br />Ehen, as I was saying jare. Last Saturday my boo just told me he was gonna take my CV to someone in church on Sunday so I thot ok why not, there is no harm in trying for the 1,000th time. He came back and said the ''Oga'' wants him to bring me to his office on Monday which is the next day.<br /><br />So I had to rush to the salon, well...my hair wasn't sooo bad just that it could pass for a rat's nest. Ok, really do not judge me oh what is the point of making new styles every 2 weeks when I ain't going no where. That also brings me to this believe that it is so TRUE that women tend to relax after marriage. Gist for another post i guess. Anyhow, hair done, eye brows sculptured(lol) yours in Christ was ready to meet ''oga''.<br /><br />We got there and the only thing he asked me was ''what did you study in Uni''? I answered and the next thing I heard was come back on Wednesday. So, I started preparing for the proper interview on Wednesday,went thru the coy's website, i asked around and blah blah. Got there on Wednesday and I was only given appointment letter. Now, tell me this is not God that has seen all my suffering that decided to reward me!<br /><br />Moi, is starting training on Monday with the rest!<br /><br />Help me say a big thank you to a covenant keeping God!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-44484339872717508752009-09-27T00:21:00.003+01:002009-09-27T00:52:45.890+01:0010 Things I Learnt From Marriage.....<strong><em><span style="color:#ff0000;">The things I have learnt from marriage are so many that I have lost count.</span></em></strong><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">1. I grew up in a house where cooking wasn't something I have to do. There were cooks,maids and all sort. Tho my mom is not the type to spare the rod and spoil the child. But now in boo's house na to cook and mehn......</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">2. I am naturally an Internet abi computer freak. I can spend the whole day in front of the laptop and not get bored. I really do not know why my husband complains.....haba i am so good at multitasking.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">3. I hate night crawling. I don't do clubs/bars/cinemas e.t.c. Cinema sha,I can manage if we are to see comedy or maybe Naija film.( I am boring abi). So I followed my boo to a karaoke bar and I succeeded in disgracing myself. Fist, I didn't want to enter cos I thot there were too many people(I am naturally shy). After spending about 10minutes outside I summoned courage and I went in. Oh well, I had fun. There was a day we went to the cinema, we went to see Ocean's 13...I slept off at the 3rd scene and woke up just about when they were showing credits for the movie.Haha...i have never seen my husband so miffed in his lifetime. Instead of him to thank God that I did not snore in the cinema.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">4. I'd rather keep to myself than talk to people around me when I am in one of my ''moods''. That is when my mum or mother in law or sis or brother in law will just decide to pop in !Bummer!</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">5. I can kill people for dropping clothes everywhere in the house but my baby does it. Once he gets in from work, he drops his jacket right in the living room. The annoying thing is he is still going into the room to undress. Can somebody help me ask why he has to drop that one first?</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">6. For the past 15 years or more I don't go to bed without having a shower, even when I was living in the UK with that frigging weather I no dey miss my nightly ritual. I had totally begged God to give me a man that will also do the same every night. Alas, no be so o. When I ask boo if he isn't going to shower he goes " there is AC in my car and AC in my office so I have not been sweating.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">7.I have learnt to be very prudent! The regular/normal Temmytayo buys whatever she fancies when ever she deems fit. But now, I think about my son first, then my husband, then the house and then myself. Very sad abi?</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">8.I have learnt how to deal with my friends better now. Some will call and abuse and complain about their husbands and trust me na so i go dey follow them blame their husbands. Until the day my hubby sat me down for a long talk on the importance of ''minding your won business'' in marriage. I must say it was a lecture I can never forget.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">9. Hand don dey pain me o and it is 12.49 am Sunday morning. I gast so sleep so i can wake up on time for church.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">Ciao!</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span>temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com19tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-63111332967367835012009-09-22T00:18:00.002+01:002009-09-22T00:32:03.063+01:00Here is to us...with love unending!<strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Here's to US!!!!<br /></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">No matter what our kids and the new generation think about us,<br />WE ARE AWESOME !!!!<br />OUR LIFE IS LIVING PROOF !!!!<br /> <br /></span> <br /><span style="color:#000099;">To Those of Us Born <br />1930 - 1979<br /> <br /></span> <br /><span style="color:#993399;">At the end of this note is a quote of the month by Jay Leno.. If you don't read anything else, please read what he said.<br /> <br />Very well stated, Mr. Leno.<br /> <br /> <br />TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE<br /> 1930's, 40's, 50's,<br /> 60's and 70's!! <br /> <br />First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.<br /> <br />They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes.<br /> <br />Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered<br />with bright colored lead-base paints.<br /> <br />We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads.<br /> <br /></span> <br /><span style="color:#000099;">As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.<br /> <br /> <br />Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat.<br /> <br />We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.<br /> <br /> <br />We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one actually died from this.<br /> <br />We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And, we weren't overweight.. WHY?<br /> <br />Because we were always outside playing...that's why!<br /></span> <br /><span style="color:#990000;">We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on..<br /> <br />No one was able to reach us all day. And, we were OKAY.<br /> <br /> <br />We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps<br />and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.<br /> <br />We did not have Play stations, Nintendo's and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 </span><br /><span style="color:#990000;">channels on cable, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, no cell phones,<br />no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms.<br /> <br /> <br />WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!<br /> <br /></span> <br /> <br />We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping pong paddles, or just a bare hand and no one would call child services to report abuse.<br /> <br /><span style="color:#006600;">We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.<br /> <br />We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and a pink ball and, although we were told it would happen, we did not poke out very many eyes.<br /> <br />We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them.<br /> <br /> <br /></span>Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team.<br />Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment.<br /> <br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">Imagine that!! <br />The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! <br /> <br />These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.<br /> <br />The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.<br /> <br />We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all.<br /> <br /> <br /></span>If YOU are one of them, <strong><span style="color:#000066;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <br /></strong> <br />You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-76630063873497729402009-09-05T23:23:00.003+01:002009-09-06T00:32:55.700+01:00Is Marriage By Force?Sometimes I wonder why people think living abroad is the best thing that can happen to them. I know women that will die or most likely kill to marry a '' citizen''. Abeg, i need someone to tell me what the biggie about this is.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">So I know this babe who is married with four kids. She has always wanted to marry a citizen and in fact a British one at that. At least we all know that with a British Pali you have less stress in going in nad out of other major developed countries. Anyways, her prayers were answered and she met Britico whom she married in less than 2 months.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;">They both moved to the UK, guy bought a 4 bedroom house, she got her passport,popped four ......kids in quick succession. Sad thing is as the years rolled bye, the marriage was dying gradually. First, the husband stopped paying bills, he later added the kids upkeep to his list of ''don't bother to do''. I mean, we all know that kids don't pay in the formative years for most basic things but shey na government go also buy them clothes and take them to Nandos or MacDonald's.</span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">Since she kuku knew her motive right from the onset, complaining to people was really difficult. So she started suffering and smiling at the same time. What a life. Why bother to marry when your husband will never stay at home, why marry a man that doesn't care whether you go to work and never come back, why live with a man that will travel outside the country without telling you and he comes back in to the home like he just went to buy newspaper at the corner shop.</span><br /><br /><br />To make matters worse, husband sold the house one day and moved them all to a 2 bedroom flat in the outskirts of London. Bummer! He was smart enough to know that if she asks for a divorce there is every possibility that she gets the house or at least half of the guy's property.<br /><br /><span style="color:#003300;">As if that was not enough, after selling the house without her consent of course, he got a job in Canada, bought a pad and moved there without telling her! He just left the house like he normally does until a friend of the family saw him in Canada and informed the wife. </span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"></span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">The good thing is he still maintains a solid relationship with his kids as he calls them often and he makes sure he buys them stuff anytime he decides to pop in to London. He has not asked his wife for a divorce and wife doesn't want to be labelled a divorcee either so she is taking things in stride. She is a married widow with a British passport! She can go to any country of her choice but she is not happy. She cries herself to sleep most times but that doesn't change anything. Sad...</span><br /><br />Oya, tell me is it by force? There are a million women out there that despite hearing stories like this are still going to make the same mistake. It hurts me when I meet such women or even men sef....it hurts!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-70304703468798400612009-08-29T14:55:00.002+01:002009-08-29T15:25:52.852+01:00Should Married Couples Sleep In Seperate Rooms<span style="color:#ff0000;">Peeps, I am so sorry I couldn't respond to the comments on my last post. Abeg vex not. It has not been easy this past week juggling motherhood with wife hood(if there is any word like that). Please, I appreciate everyone that passes by my page whether you leave comment or not.</span><br /><br />I kind of always wonder if it is a MUST for couples to actually sleep in the same room. For one, I am not sure if I can sleep in a separate room. My husband calls me a cat because if I don't feel his body next to mine at nights ehn....... story for another day.<br /><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;">Ok, ask me what of the times he has been out of town. How do I cope? That is the thing, I may not sleep immediately i get on the bed cos I will turn and toss and imagine he was right beside me. But, I will still sleep sha anyhow.</span><br /><br />So I asked a friend of mine and she said no way,her husband snores like a truck on the highway. She said and I quote '' I love my husband to bits but if we keep sleeping in the same room I will definitely start hating him''. Strong words but i totally understand. And that brings me to asking this question: Why must men snore????<br /><br />My husband snores lightly and when he is very tired he actually ''SNORES''. For me sleeping with the lightest noise is an issue. I am a very light sleeper, any sound no matter how minimal wakes me up so you can imagine what it is to stay awake to hear your beloved snoring and sleeping peacefully. What i do most times is to tap him lightly and once he turns over he stops snoring.<br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;">Then I remember my uncle, Jesus Christ of Nazareth. If people can win award for snoring,he will by now have plenty gold medals. There was a time he came with his wife to spend some time with us. They both slept quite early on this fateful day and then mom told me to go pick up her bag from her room. I had to pass by the visitors room, and I thought i heard my uncle strangling my aunt. I had to run to call my mum that before uncle kills aunt make we alert the neighbours. </span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br /><span style="color:#cc33cc;">My mama no wear wrapper commot living room to find out what was happening. We barged into the room only to find husband and wife snoring their lives away. As husband was raising the bar the wife was supporting with her sonorous umphs. We laughed so hard and believe it or not they didn't wake up!</span><br /><span style="color:#cc33cc;"></span><br />Some people are of the opinion that sleeping apart is the beginning of ''distance'' in a relationship. But shouldn't couples have time apart? I mean some ''me'' time. I am sure there are days either partner just wants to spread out alone on the bed and just sleep.<br /><br />Whatchya think peeps?temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com33tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-81005715773095269872009-08-24T23:29:00.002+01:002009-08-24T23:50:00.882+01:00I married a VAIN man.......My husband is just different and maybe that is why we will forever be in love(amen).He is just very vain. I don't think that I have ever met someone that is so conscious of looks and other vain stuffs like him. Haba, his own is too much.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">1. He doesn't like to see me in flat shoes. Anytime i do that it is just like I just twisted a knife through his fragile heart. You need to understand me on this, his face completely changes to something else. Like someone in serious pain. Me, I am flatie. I love my slippers like mad,why wear heels when I will limp for days from the after effect. I am a short woman oh but abeg, heels are for the likes of <span style="color:#003300;">Posh </span>and </span><span style="color:#33cc00;">VERA EZIMORA.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#33ccff;">2.When i fix weave on as we call it in Naija, it must have either a fringe or some dropping to the sides. I MUST on no account pack my hair behind my ears. To all women out there, can you please explain to my boo that we have what is called hot weather,I mean a season where people actually feel the heat!!!!</span><br /><span style="color:#33ccff;"></span><br /><span style="color:#6633ff;">3. Oh,when yours truly wears pink, hubby expects me to use pink eye shadow. I mean the colours gast to match the outfit. He goes ''don't you have the shade in your eye make up bag'' sometimes just feel like screaming! There are days I just want to be bare faced, no make up. But hell no, he wont agree.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">4. Mr O is a sucker for lip gloss. He doesn't like lipsticks. He can do anything for a woman with lip gloss. Imagine that. I am more of a lipstick person but he is always shouting please use the one that ''shines'' on your lips!</span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"></span><br />5. Moi, does not like to show cleavage in my outfits. Him, he wants me to show the whole world my two mudu of breasts oh. I don tire.<br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;">6. He is a sucker for labels. When I used to work on the Island, I always have to leave the house before him so he always has enough time to assess my dressing. You hear things like ''why don't you carry your Gucci bag,it will go well with that outfit''. Or, you should use a ferragamo belt on that pants. Kai, chineke! Vanity of the highest order.</span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br />7. I think I have blogged about the issue of food as in there are days that I do not know what to cook apart from rice, amala and pasta. (I suck abi, i know). So imagine that I call boo to ask him what to cook. He goes I really feel like roasted potatoes with fish fillet or some odd names that I sure know I cannot prepare. Why cant he ever say I want ogi(pap) and moin moin.<br /><br /><span style="color:#cc66cc;">His vanity has actually helped me in a way. I am more conscious of the way I eat in public, seat, pack my hair and in fact drive my car sef. Biko, MR O you no get Part 2. But I love you anyhow.</span>temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-9073595417930040912009-08-18T01:10:00.002+01:002009-08-18T01:21:14.994+01:00Randomness In High PlacesI know I promised myself that I will be regular blogger, so by fire by force I know I must update. The truth is there is nothing to blog about. But well, lets just cook up some randomness happening around me jare.<br /><br />1. It is 1.16am and I am very much wide awake with hubby and son sleeping peacefully. Right now, if it wont be a crime o I probably would hit him on the head with a pestle cos he is snoring tho very lightly. I cannot stress how much I hate to hear people snore. Kai, this one wey God do me ehn....ok o.<br /><br />2. My son was 1 on the 11th. Despite all the no parry business ehn,we still had a lil family parry. Imagine this, my sister in law woke me up early on the 11th that her driver is in my compound oh and that she sent him with the party packs for the party. I had to thank her profusely, you know how people can think you do not appreciate their efforts. So now that there are party packs, food and drinks must surface somehow. And the wahala started......<br /><br />3. In the process of making coleslaw for the first time(lol) in my life, the stupid grater nearly took off my index finger. See blood gushing like Ogun river. Thank God that my finger didn't chop off.<br /><br />4. Have I ever mentioned that my husband gets mad when I wear flat shoes? Kai,it is like an obsession. Biko, I don tire. I had to wear some bad heels all thru the ''gest togerra''. And boy, do I still have legs? I doubt. My thighs have been hurting all day plus my neck too.<br /><br />5. Ok, putting some of the pictures on face book sef as I type. No vex for those of you that wont see it but to those that will do,all da best.<br /><br />Cathya, laer.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-30537409405616526562009-08-09T19:27:00.004+01:002009-08-09T20:05:54.614+01:00The Wedding Game....<span style="color:#ff0000;">This is so totally random a post. I don't know why I have been thinking about the way we ''waste'' money in Africa over ceremonies. The one that bothers me the most is weddings. Why do we have to spend so much on wedding ceremonies.</span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"></span><br />A typical Naija Bride wants to wear a dress that cost between $3,000 to $15,000. Now, I do not have a problem with that if your father is Otedola or the present President of Nigeria(which means that your father don chop our money finish). Alright, back to the point after spending so much on the wedding dress, why chunk it inside a wardrobe for the remaining part of your life. Why?<br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#006600;">Then, you find out that the parents of the couple can decide to ''die''(no pun intended) over aso ebi or the musician to sing on the wedding day. After which the musician will either make you cry or laugh your butts off. At my cousin's wedding, you won't believe the so called "Police Band" did not show face at the reception. We sort of clapped our way to the high table. I have never been more embarrassed in my life.</span><br /><br /><br /><p>The part that annoys me the most is after spending 25 million naira for a wedding it will still end at 6pm maximum. If you still spend 100 thousand na the same 6pm and you will wear the same wedding gown. </p><p>The wedding planners are making money off us, do I blame them No! She has capitalized on people like you and I that most definitely are party freaks. Is it not madness for a wedding planner to take 10% of the amount you want to spend on your wedding. Of course, a wedding planner does a lot for you running around to get stuff for the wedding. But think about it, are those things really important. </p><p>I know a couple that spent close to 6million on their wedding and the couple do not have a car! Not even a rickety one to push them around. Another couple that are quite close to me spent so much time looking for souvenirs and aso ebi and MC that they forgot that the couple will not continue to live in the Uncle's house. They didn't get their own apartment. Madness, I call it.<br /></p><br /><p>Wait sef, why am I ranting... the purpose of this post is to ask this golden question</p><p>"DOES THE AMOUNT SPENT ON A WEDDING CEREMONY DETERMINES THE SUCCESS OF THE MARRIAGE ITSELF''.<br /></p>temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-68289174748893324062009-08-01T23:10:00.002+01:002009-08-01T23:36:49.329+01:00It is the 1st Of August and I am pregnant yet again....I <span style="color:#660000;"><em>am ever so grateful to God Almighty for today. This time last year I was about popping,heavy with pregnancy, dark and bloated. To climb the stairs was like a tough job and I can remember my aunt was always shouting you need to climb this stairs 8 times a day so that your delivery will turn out very easy. I climbed stairs so tey, my leg talk one day say: I NO SEND YOU ERRAND! With all my evening strolls and,prancing about, yours truly still had a Cesarean section when the boy no wan commot for my belle. I guess it was the pounded yam i was addicted to in my eight month. Kai, I chop iyan so tey my already round and big tummy will now become very hard and I will be breathing like someone that was ready to pass out. I too like food.lol</em></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;">Anyways, lil man was due on the 13th but trust me I was already ready to push from the 1st of August, who is going to wait another 2 weeks,lai lai no be me. So, I started walking and cleaning the house with the hope of getting the boy frustrated enough to jump out. For where, the boy just stayed kampe for there oh.</span><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;"></span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">As usual on the night of the 9th I took my ''Iyan'' as usual and went to sleep. Do I even call that sleep, I was just tossing and turning as no position was comfy anymore at that stage. Being gone that far means I normally ''pee'' like 7 times before morning(sad abi). So I went to pee as regular and i just saw blood, checked the time it was 4am. Blood ke, shebi the midwife said na water first,which one is blood. </span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">Hubby was back in Nigeria then and I had to call my auntie to say ''auntie I saw blood''. She flew out of bed and called the ambulance. I was dazed, is this it? So I will soon be a mum. How come people now shout in movies, I am not feeling any pain now. I LIED!</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">Ambulance came,and I was taken to the hospital.The beginning of the pain/I spent 72 hours in the hospital out of which I spent 68 hours shouting and crying and begging God to forgive me if it was my sins that is causing all the pain. Oh, I nearly forgot this...when I got to the hospital they asked me if I wanted a pain relief or just go natural. I said natural all the way. I am a true African. Eesh, no one begged me when I started shouting for the ''epidural injection''. </span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">Oyinbo people don go I swear, so why do women have to go through the pain of delivery when epidural can just take the pain away in 1 sec. I am not going to lie, I am so sure I died but God sent me back knowing fully well that I never build house for Ikeja GRA, no street has been named after me just yet and of cos,I am yet to fulfill God's plan for my life. Thank you jare Baba God. But for you....</span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">So, I am sure that you are thinking,if she went through all this wahala why get pregnant again. Biko, no vex this pregnancy no be pickin dey inside oh. I am pregnant with IDEAS on how to make money and become famous in my generation. I am sorry if you were misled.LOL</span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">I shall be back to blog about the CS !</span>temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-90125745745295866752009-07-22T22:26:00.002+01:002009-07-22T22:41:28.091+01:00So, I sleep with two guys everynight.....<span style="color:#009900;">Yeah, the title of today's post is no joke. Now I know what it is for two guys to want the attention of just one woman all at the same time. I have been contemplating running away but come to think of it, I can't give up now. I mean, everybody has said marriage is not easy ,this and that.... but no one told me that I'd never ever ever be able to sleep alone without any disturbance again!</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br /><span style="color:#009900;">My son for one has never slept in a cot,he prefers to sleep on my chest till morning. Ok,that was fun when he was still about 3 months old, this boy is nearly one and he weighs about 11kg and still enjoys sleeping on my chest or not sleep at all.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;">You See, I woke up a few weeks back with this terrible chest pain and that was just like 2 days after MJ passed on. My chest was hurting badly and I thought to myself, am i having a heart attack...you see I can be very paranoid over silly things. That is the way i am wired(using hubby's words) Eesh...</span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;">So I called him at work to say,my chest is hurting and I am not sure it is not an attack. The boy no gree stop laughing, I was getting pissed off the more but he didn't stop. Oh yeah, after making me feel like killing him he reminded me of the sack of rice that sleeps on my chest every nite!</span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;">The funny part is since lil man sleeps on the bed with us, it makes sense that he doesn't sleep in the middle so we don't suffocate the boy with blanket or the cover cloth. So, I always lay him to the side and we give him enough space to twist and turn around the bed, we then get to manage the quarter of the bed. Babies dey enjoy sha. But this boy will leave his won part of the bed and climb on me during the night,sometimes i just feel like shouting in the middle of the night for GOD to save me.........</span><br /><br />Somebody help me.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-36270662546014835422009-07-14T00:36:00.002+01:002009-07-14T00:42:16.632+01:00Does A Man Who Cheats On His Wife Really Love Her?<span style="color:#009900;">On the radio this morning, a topic came up on whether a man who cheats on his wife really love them? Both sides had valid points. Guys were saying sex outside the marriage is simply a physical thing, a release so to speak, nothing intimate about it, no emotional connection involved, as long as you hide it well, you should be okay. Women were saying that if he truly loved his wife it just wouldn't happen period no matter the lust he felt, or the temptation thrown his way, for him to cheat on her meant he really didn't care.</span><br /><span style="color:#009900;"></span><br />My personal opinion is yes, a man can love his wife yet get pleased sexually elsewhere besides home. Love isn't the problem here, respect is. I feel that once you decide to propose and get married, you should understand the responsibilities that come along with that, especially fighting temptation. You CHOSE to take your relationship to the next level, she said yes with full faith and trust in you, most women do take those vows seriously. <br /><br /><span style="color:#cc33cc;">Though to guys sex with someone else may not mean anything, they love their spouse to death and the last thing they want is to lose their family, to the woman that's a pain that's very hard to take. You didn't respect her enough to avoid the one thing that is a sure relationship ender. Mind you, in most cases the women find out either by the mans actions, or someone else, the last thing you'd want is her finding out by someone else telling her or bringing it to her attention, now not only is she being cheated on but also humiliated because others around her know but she doesn't. </span><br /><span style="color:#cc33cc;"></span><br /><span style="color:#ff6600;">It's even worse when you have children because it shows lack of respect for your family life as a whole. It's like your saying you were willing to risk all of that just for a simple relief that you could have gotten at home. Or even worse such as in the McNair case, the wife finding out AFTER he dies!!! How do you get through something like that?! You can't ask why, your hurt, angry, disappointed, here it is he's dead but your left with the questions not just from yourself but the kids and everyone else! How do you get through those emotions, anger, hate, love, hurt you name it! Wow I couldn't imagine.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">I always tell people simply because you love someone is not enough of a reason to get married and start a family, both people have to be mentally and physically prepared for such an undertaking, it takes a great deal of maturity, compromise and sacrifice. No relationship is easy but with the right amount of understanding and communication it can be made less hard. Understand that issues that you had before marriage will not go away simply because your married, if your future husband is a partyer flirt, etc, that will NOT go away with marriage. </span><br /><br />If your future wife is insecure, jealous etc...that will not go away with marriage. If two people are serious about making that step then certain things will start to wain before hand so that they can go into the relationship with a clear mind and work on it together. Unfortunately that rarely happens. I can't tell you how many weddings I've been too for friends, families and co workers where I'm saying to myself 'goodness these people should not be getting married!' But to each it's own, where the delusion that once you get married all problems stop come from is beyond me lol. So ladies I want to hear your take on this?<br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">Guys I want to really hear your opinions as well. In fact I want to hear how it would be taken if the shoe was on the other foot, what would you do if you found out your wife whom never gave you an inkling of a clue as to her 'dipping' out on you, was cheating on you? Would you accept the it didn't mean anything reasoning? How would you take it if it came from your friends or peers? Would you leave or would you stay? If you stayed, how would it affect your trust and relationship as a whole, could you still look at her the same?<br /></span><br /><br />Oh, by the way:Culled from yahoo as I was too lazy to think of what to blog about.temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com575tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-91297622937811392382009-07-10T01:17:00.002+01:002009-07-10T01:27:20.396+01:00Are second wives going to make heaven?Now, this is a very controversial topic but the truth is it has been boggling my mind for a while now. I know that if we do a poll there is bound to be different answers as to why they should make heaven.Some people may never come by this blog again sef but well....<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Talking from personal and other peoples experiences;</span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">1. It is the second wife that in most cases makes the father of the house to stop caring, loving, and spending on his family.</span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">2. The woman can also make it possible for the husband to disown his kids just because they refuse to accept new ''mummy''.</span><br /><br />3. I have heard of instances of a father moving from his palatial home to live in a room and parlour with new wife.(now I call that true love, abi).<br /><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;">What on earth would make a 25year old woman that has the whole world in front of her decide that she wants to be a second wife! In this generation where people pray fire for fire. She just decided she'd rather have all her husband's kids and wife wake up and curse her every minute of the day. For instance, God forbid this happening oh, if my husband decides to have mistress not to talk of a wife outside shebi na just to do 7 days of white fasting that God should eliminate the woman. Shikena. Na so she go just die because of a man.lol</span><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;"></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;">Nah, in all seriousness now. Can somebody please tell me if any second wife that entered the liaison willing or unwillingly make heaven. May God forgive us all sha.</span>temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-83282563107056912412009-07-04T20:53:00.004+01:002009-07-04T23:48:31.085+01:00IT'S PARRY TIME OH.TICKETS ARE LIMITED.If only I can tell my mum, mother in law and in fact everybody telling me to celebrate my son's first year birthday then surely I will be SCREAMING SHUT UP PLEASE!<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc33cc;">There is no sense in celebrating one year birthday, not that I do not appreciate God but does the recipient(well lack of word to use) understand why everybody wants to kiss, hug and cuddle him all at once. NO! He will probably cry all through the day and if one is lucky he can sleep all through sha..</span><br /><br /><br /><br />Now i am dreading picking my mum or mother in law's call cos after all the normal how are you, the next topic is BIRTHDAY! So what are we going to put in the party packs, which venue, what is he going to wear. Are we making butter cake or cup cake? I am fed up oh you two.<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">What am I going to do now? I went for my friend's son 1 year party today. The boy slept,woke up and cry very well when he saw all the faces gathered to kiss him. So after the parry I called a few numbers that were stuffed in my bag by aunties and mummies as party planners. The least bill I was given was N150,000.00k for the venue and bouncing castle only! What happens to the food,the party packs and drinks nko. God forbid evil thing oh. How on earth am i gonna put down 250k for a parry? When I Can start a business with that sum of money.</span><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span><br />Anyways just had a change of mind and I will be sending this text out to my friends and family<br />''Due to popular demand, my husband and I have decided to hold a party in honour of our cute little one. Venue is the Civic Centre and time is 4pm till dawn. Gate fee is N5,000 and we also have Aso Ebi for N15,000. Your presence will be highly appreciated. Come one,come all.<br /><br />I am so sure after seeing this text no one will bother me again. Haba!temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4998452757464314719.post-22135613071499782352009-06-30T22:06:00.002+01:002009-06-30T22:44:45.159+01:00Help! He is abusing me and I can't leave him...Oh well, to my concerned peeps I am not the one being abused but that statement was screamed down at me by one of my 3 best friends! Men! What do we do with and without them? That is just a very big question that I REALLY DO NOT KNOW the answer to.<br /><br />Maybe I should start by telling you the whole story sef. I have been friends with my ''friend'' for my than 14 years so i can confidently say I know her very well. We have been through everything imaginable together, loving, being loved, heartbreaks, you name it. She had this perfect or well near perfect relationship when we were in Uni but somehow things just went wrong,thanks to the 2 people involved. (no shifting blames here).<br /><br />Anyways,after the breakup, she has been in and out of relationships with people I can tag ''idiots'' if I am not being biased. I mean she is my friend I am supposed to support her anyhoo. As I dey talk sha, nothing came out of about 3 or 4 relationships and as women now, we always feel it is''our'' fault. I still dunno why women are like this sha.<br /><br />I am even getting emotional, let me just cut the story short jare cos Mr husband here is wondering why I am not in bed at 12am. So she met this guy, perfect in all aspects. Treated her like a queen from the beginning and she fell hard and flat.<br /><br />Well, I had my reservations from the onset but then in a situation where a woman is in her 30's and all her friends are married or in serious relatiosnhips then you know that it takes the grace of God not to fight if/when you give some unsolicited advise. So well i decided to keep praying for her.<br /><br />But she noticed this guy doesn't like when she greets people on the street. She gave instances of meeting up with old Uni mates that are guys and this guy actually go bunkers just because she stopped to hug and say hello to men! What kain rubbish is this one I thot to myself. So there was a particular day she went shopping for the 2 of them oh and she had so many bags to carry, She was lucky enough to meet an old fried who volunteered to drop her at the nearest train station, while she was in his car, boyfriend called. She had to tell him she was even lucky she met someone who is dropping her at the station so he should meet her at the station and blah blah. She said I needed to hear all the guy said to her on the phone, swearing and cursing them both out. So sure she was cheating or how come she is always meeting someone that wants to help her and stuff.<br /><br />So Mr husband to be asked my friend to move in with him and she did. Few weeks after, he proposed to her. Bummer you'd say abi? The petty fights over silly things never stopped. Fighting over staying too long on the computer, you talk too much with your friends. Why do you guys always say the same things when you talk( I have known women to repeat the same things over and over and we LOVE it, don't we?)<br />She said to me that this guy constantly hurls hurting words at her and then later go on his knees to say sorry. This is just mental and emotional abuse of a girl that is seeking love and attention from the man she loves.<br /><br />There was a day she had serious menstrual cramps and she was in serious pain and crying, guy walks in from work and couldn't say any other thing apart from and I quote " you need to get a grip on yourself woman, you are not a baby''. For any woman out there that suffers from serious menstrual cramps I am sure you can imagine the pain!<br /><br />As usual they had a heated argument one day and the guy actually shouted and said to her and I quote " I am so glad I have not married you oh.So this is the kind of woman that you are" I personally know that for me that would have been the final straw! I TOLD HER TO QUIT.Was that too much for me to say? Am I being insensitive to a lonely girl's plight?temmy tayohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07042720448372046992noreply@blogger.com17