Friday 8 December 2006

Birthday cake and a long article




I decided to post the picture of the birthday cake!
I am still scared of coming out on blogger.
Smoothvibes i am sorry to have dash your hopes of seeing my black face. LOL.

I still have moderated comments imagine the stress particularly now that my link at home and work are playing games!!!

I thot to share this article with you all.

The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are... but on
how happy others can be because of you !!! "

This is a must read

White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response. Please
take amoment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black man.

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a
Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad
she gotwhat she asked for (and more) !!!

Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females attitudes
about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women
were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean,
too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by
Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us . So did Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne,Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men,let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from
one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give
it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities,fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on
how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood,Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women and, to flip the script, there are numerous white men,in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling
Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe
eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.
Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was
black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And,through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white,then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what
the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.
Signed,
Black Royalty

10 comments:

Daddy's Girl said...

The cake looks great!

I love that correspondence you posted - black women rock!

Have a great weekend, and don't mind all those people that insist on exposing bloggers' identities. So not cool.

Azuka said...

I must have seen this post a hundred times, and I must admit I find it very racist.

The stereotyping is very acute, and...

Better come out of your shell. We need those pics!

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

I read this when it came out - I loved it - not becasue of the racial conotattion but the way our man stood up for us. It reminds me of when miguel put up a post especially for his naija ladies.

So temmy you decided to post your birthday cake, so we can salivate, when you wern't going to post any to us. As a cake lover I am standing for others to bring to your attention that this is not fair. LOL. Pls post some biko.LOL.

Smoothvibes said...

Nice post on black women!

Interesting to see views from both sides.

Well.. I'll manage the cake pic for now!

Favoured Girl said...

How come it is only picture of the cake we can see. What happened to my slice that you promised to send?

I read those letters some time ago when somebody forwarded it to my inbox. I think there is a bit of truth on both sides. I read in a novel recently about the attractions between blacks and whites. A black man was saying that when he was growing up, the message boys got was that black=bad and white=good. So for some of them, getting a white girl was an ambition they had to realise, to boost their self-esteem. On the flip side, there were lots of white men who on the outside, had a wife and family, but kept black women as mistresses.
I can see how it could hurt a black girl to see a black man with a white girl. On the other hand, we all want someone who can relate to us and understand where we are coming from. But overall, I think we should learn to look beyond the skin colours and see relationships for what they are: two human beings enjoying their lives together.
*Sigh* If only life was that simple.

Anyways, have a good weekend Temmy!

Unknown said...

The cake looks great? Temmy - why have you removed the picture of the cake now? I want to have a look too even if I dont get to eat a slice!!

I saw this post somewhere during one of my blog stalking days but cant remeber the address of the blog I saw it. I only remember it was a blog written by white females who were married to african males and were blogging about the unhappy experiences and clashes of culture in their marriages.

Biodun said...

Ko fair o, so we wont get 2 see ur face bah :(
I want cake o, so post mine asap

Teva said...

O baby, congrats on the birthday again, but the cake no show for my own computer o... you fit send the remnants to me...i'll make my postcode available

hows the job thing...hope its good. nice write-up by black royalty...that was some good thrashing for the young woman!!!

Vera Ezimora said...

Temmytayo, you betta put your picture up o! Ah ah, wetin dey do you sef? Don't lemme vex o. And who knows, Bobby might be the one 4 u...since he gets under your skin so much.

I have read that article bout black men and white women several times, and I am yet to find it appealing. Personally, I don't have any problem with any black man dating a white woman. I think everyone should pursue whoever, whatever makes them happy, and if that's a white woman, then so be it!

It's not like the white woman is dating a man that woulda or shoulda been dating me, so why bother? Besides, it is not only ridiculous, but also impossible to put every white woman and/or every black man in one box. There are bad eggs in every tribe anyways...

NaijaBloke said...

I will agree with Azuka and belle.. to me both letters have a lot to do with anger and racism o ..

So u dont want us to see ur face abi and I did not even get to see the cake sef ..

Howz ur job thingy going ..moving to Ireland ..LOL

U have a nice wekk