Sunday, 27 December 2009

10 Things No One Told Me About Marriage...

Five, 10, 15 years ago, it was all white lace and promises. You were young(not necessarily these days), dewy—and a little bit dumb. Who knew about all the things you would find out later?

Since I’ve been married for 2 years, I’ve been elected to dig up some of the truths about married life. I had some ideas of my own, but I also polled a bunch of my long-married friends. They told me that over the years, their eyes had been opened—and it has not always been pleasant.

1. Weird in-laws get even weirder over time. And your kids will inevitably inherit some of the traits of your weird in-laws. Got a nonstop talker? An attention hound? It’s probably not hard to figure out who she takes after.

2. Your hubby may be a great guy, but beware: Once he slips that ring on your finger, you’ve adopted his family—not just the immediate family, but every long lost cousin too. That’s a lot of people who could show up uninvited for Thanksgiving dinner or ask for a loan (“just until payday”). Even the ones that thinks asking you for your car for two days should go down well with you.

3. Though he never snored before, he might after you’re hitched. Take a tip from a couple I know, and to solve this problem rather than fight non stop just buy ear plugs or kuku remove your own ears.

4. There are two schools of thought on birthdays: the “it’s not a big deal” school and the “yay for meee!” school. The former gets a card. The latter celebrates the Season of the Birthday, which can go on for quite a long time, like Chanukah or Advent. Figure out which one you’re married to, and be ready. I am lucky that mine remembers my birthday and he tries to make the day extra special.

5. It’s better to keep listening to those stories and laughing at those jokes rather than remind him he’s told them to you a million times (this from a 41-year veteran of listening to old stories). Life is short, even though those stories aren’t. Deal with it.

6. Yes, you can go to bed angry. You may hate him at that moment, but no one really deserves the backache you get from sleeping on the couch. If you were married to my husband I can assure he'd forget that you are not even in bed with him.

7. We all do stuff differently. You may be married to one of those guys who thinks that the way to wash dishes is to (gack!) soak them in a sudsy sinkful of water, then rinse them off. If this isn’t your way, it’s not worth arguing about it. Just be glad he’s doing the dishes.

8. Your husband really doesn’t remember your clothes. If you call attention to anything new, you’re a fooling your self...let's say he'll stare blankly into space and then nod his head.

9. It is amazing how many disagreements, crummy moods and disappointments can be temporarily glossed over with a plate of good food.

10. Are you on the same page about the empty nest? If he loves the idea of moving to Lekki for the serenity and the early-bird special and you’re all about the mainland so you won't miss your hair appointment at Bobby's or Make Me then you’re in trouble. Either that or you’ve got to do what you’ve done so many times already: compromise. Move to Lekki and get stuck in traffic daily then you'd complain afterwards.


Ok, all said above doesnt necessarily apply to Temmytayo but I am sure we can all relate. Happy New year in advance peeps.

18 comments:

cici said...

thanks for the tip...although im not married yet, i will definitely keep this for future reference.

Fluffycutething said...

Yep we sure can relate!!!!!!!!!!!

Myne Whitman said...

I laughed reading some of that but sure can relate, especially the lobng stories, LOL.

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

Thanks that was helpful!

N.I.M.M.O said...

If not for the age you quoted, I would have asked if you were my wife!

Sure can relate.

FFF said...

definitely can relates . . . & unluckily for me, husband doesn't remember dates - not birthdays, not anniversary dates. It's a great day when he says happy birthday or happy anniversary. no need hoping for treats, cos daz just setting myself up 4 bad mood!

FFF said...

oh, & happy new year!

Remi, United Kingdom said...

Happy New Year :-)

I pray the year has started in a wonderful way for you. In God, it can only get better.

I would like to say Thank You for being a reader of A Day In God's will last year. I than you for your comments, I am sure they have inspired and uplifted others.

I wish you an awesome year filled with God's love and never-ending favour.

Much Love.

Rita said...

no 3, 6 and 10 just cracked me up. Yes and i can relate...lol...

Happy New Year

蘋果的 said...

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Calabar Gal said...

Happy New Yr to u too!!

yayi said...

this marriage talk dey scare me well well!!

冷漠 said...

才華在逆境中展現,在順境中被掩藏。 ....................................................

BiMbyLaDs** said...

preach it again sister. well said

Omotee! said...

this is really good, i will keep this. very funny too!

first time here, pls update fast!

龐克搖滾 said...

不勞而獲的事情,並沒有價值........................................

Tisha said...

"I don't mind moving to lekki 'wink'"

Marriage is still a dream in the making for me so i'll imagine i don't know all this stuff but i'll still be ready when they do so i'll not be too surprised.

I have several siblings and i am sure he can't be too worse off than they are.
I have this negative trait my sis says will freak everyone out. i wake at 5.00am every morning sometimes 4am and everyone wakes with me at least subliminally

LG said...

helloooooooooooooo anybodi home???