Sunday 27 September 2009

10 Things I Learnt From Marriage.....

The things I have learnt from marriage are so many that I have lost count.

1. I grew up in a house where cooking wasn't something I have to do. There were cooks,maids and all sort. Tho my mom is not the type to spare the rod and spoil the child. But now in boo's house na to cook and mehn......

2. I am naturally an Internet abi computer freak. I can spend the whole day in front of the laptop and not get bored. I really do not know why my husband complains.....haba i am so good at multitasking.

3. I hate night crawling. I don't do clubs/bars/cinemas e.t.c. Cinema sha,I can manage if we are to see comedy or maybe Naija film.( I am boring abi). So I followed my boo to a karaoke bar and I succeeded in disgracing myself. Fist, I didn't want to enter cos I thot there were too many people(I am naturally shy). After spending about 10minutes outside I summoned courage and I went in. Oh well, I had fun. There was a day we went to the cinema, we went to see Ocean's 13...I slept off at the 3rd scene and woke up just about when they were showing credits for the movie.Haha...i have never seen my husband so miffed in his lifetime. Instead of him to thank God that I did not snore in the cinema.

4. I'd rather keep to myself than talk to people around me when I am in one of my ''moods''. That is when my mum or mother in law or sis or brother in law will just decide to pop in !Bummer!

5. I can kill people for dropping clothes everywhere in the house but my baby does it. Once he gets in from work, he drops his jacket right in the living room. The annoying thing is he is still going into the room to undress. Can somebody help me ask why he has to drop that one first?

6. For the past 15 years or more I don't go to bed without having a shower, even when I was living in the UK with that frigging weather I no dey miss my nightly ritual. I had totally begged God to give me a man that will also do the same every night. Alas, no be so o. When I ask boo if he isn't going to shower he goes " there is AC in my car and AC in my office so I have not been sweating.

7.I have learnt to be very prudent! The regular/normal Temmytayo buys whatever she fancies when ever she deems fit. But now, I think about my son first, then my husband, then the house and then myself. Very sad abi?

8.I have learnt how to deal with my friends better now. Some will call and abuse and complain about their husbands and trust me na so i go dey follow them blame their husbands. Until the day my hubby sat me down for a long talk on the importance of ''minding your won business'' in marriage. I must say it was a lecture I can never forget.

9. Hand don dey pain me o and it is 12.49 am Sunday morning. I gast so sleep so i can wake up on time for church.

Ciao!

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your lessons learnt especially the one of minding ones business is a great point. God bless you and your family.

DiAmOnD hawk said...

come back and give the last 2 points... and for that stunt you must had 2 more.. to make it 12...

Thank you for sharing your lessons... I totally agree about the minding business part... cuz you know what will happen after they abuse him... they'll be back loving him tomorrow... we women can switch moods in an instant... and it takes discipline not to complain

Yankeenaijababe said...

This is the real confessions from a newly married wife, thanks for sharing the tips. Infact, this coming week...I plan on doing a post about wife submission and marriage.

Enjoy your sunday dearie, hope baby and hubby are doing great.

Miss Enigma said...

First time here...Really interesting points...biko cme back and finish it.

Teva said...

I absolutely love that..'I asked the guy to bath and he said he's not sweating'...LOL
How you been? I can see that you've taken to marriage like a duck to water...

temmy tayo said...

@Anon: Thanks and God bless you too.

@Diamond: I said hand dey pain me.lol Wil give the 2 points I promise.

@YankeeNaijaBabe: Pls do your post, would love to read! Thanks for stopping by.

@Undercover: Thanks a bunchies oh.

@Teva:babe, i dey oh. I am trying my best jare.

Nnudababywrite4me said...

Ha Ha...
Love this...your hubby gave you the best advice o..
NEVER interfere in another womans affair as if things turn..babes you go hear am.

I always keep away from friends who spend time ABUSING their husbands o..

histreasure said...

i smiled to myself while reading this..cos girl, i heart u,

the cooking thing, mehn..and u gast to constantly make interesting and delicious meals o **sigh**

Ah, internet..the life i live..one thing that has made it bearable.multi-tasking or not, he still will grumble when he does just know it is attention seeking..lol

great points!!

Fluffycutething said...

I have learnt that truly we are not all raised the same way or exposed to the same things....

Even the BASICS!!!

Rita said...

So true...and everyday is a learning process...

Lady A said...

Wow, I love it and you remind me of myself BIG TIME. U had me laughing too. Laptop is my thing also, but when hubby comes home I try and respect that down time with him, girl, it pays in the long run, trust me... I proably will post this as a tag, cuz it was really good! If I do, then I'll let you know. Thanks!

Myne said...

Got me laughing there. For the shower own, me I talk my own. But person bizness, you no even see me for there seef. LOL. Nice one.

temmy tayo said...

@Innuda: na true talk jare. Thanks a lot.

@histreasure:It is not something i look forward to everyday make i tell the truth.

@Fluffy:true talk!

@Rita:Thanks for stopping by.

@Lady A: thanks for stopping by and oh please do let me know.

@MyneWhitman:lol

BiMbyLaDs** said...

I am tagging my self. I am doing this post next, Ore this is so onpoint!! loll

temmy tayo said...

@BimbylaDs: Please, I cant wait to read yours oh. How is Mini Bim?

Ms. Catwalq said...

The woman puts all people first and no one does the same for her...unless she does it herself.
As far as relationships, I have ceased to become a dumping ground for friends' lamentations---though I hope they don't think I don't care---because I believe that if you are not willing to change your situation, then don't complain.

NewLife said...

gotta love #6 and #8
awww #7 is not sad, its an opportunity you should embrace, some women are unable to have children, some no fit find husband, some do not have a roof over their heads. Count your blessings. God bless.

Anonymous said...

that was a good lecture you husband gave you about minding your business in other people's relationship o

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

this was nice.

I laughed out loud when you wrote about sleeping off at the theater and your hubby being pissed.

Marriage definitely teaches patience.

Hope all is well.