Monday 26 March 2007

Temmylicious

Hello peeps,

I sort of stirred up controversy with my last post abi. No be my fault. I guess i was just shocked ni. Sincere apologies to all of ya that was not warned about the content of the page you were about to view. E ma binu o.

A big thank you to everyone that has been a pillar of support for me, either by sms or phone call or emails. You don;t know how much you have encouraged me, thanks a bunch.

Remember that Papa and Mama Temmy gave me the ultimatum to get married in May 2007 and as the date was looming I began to fidget and fear for my dear life. A few days before I went off blogger, Mama Temmy called me and said, make up your mind if you are going to marry this boy or not.

Ok, great question. Do I really?

2 days later, I heard from grape vine that the babe Ex cheated on me with has relocated to Nigeria. Relocate ke? Where is she now? Abuja. This babe means business. Kudos to her for her guts abi. Being Detective Temmy in action, I got to know that Ex was not aware of her plans to relocate as she had lived in the states for 15 years and always said she was never going to live in Nigeria again. How did I hear all these: from Ex.

Temmy wanted to go to mad, shey i was playing hard to get to test the waters. To know if the guy still loves or just wants me back because of my cute backside and ever smiling face.lol
Now that Madam O don go Naija wetin man pickin go do.

For the 1st week, i was a walking zombie. I even disgraced you lot one day like that o. I was taking a walk on my street,listening to my ipod and started crying in the rain! Imagine, omo disgrace. Sorry all,my bad!

Then I called my mum and told her the latest ''security'' report. She then said to me: Don't blame yourself for whatever is not right in your life at the moment. Whatever is yours will definitely be yours. Sho ti gbo oko mi, pele ma ro inu mo(have you heard me my dear, stop thinking). That did it.That night i went to the cinema with the gals and boy we had fun baje baje.

I am going to blog about 3 guys that have shaped my life.
Oluwatosin(the Muslim)
Akinwale ( my great crush)
Abiodun( My Ex)

The ways they have improved my personality is awesome.

35 comments:

Moments said...

I'm FIRST!!!! Yippee.....

I'll be back, before someone takes this position from me :-)

temmy tayo said...

lol at moments.

Daddy's Girl said...

Your mum is a wise woman. You did not disgrace us o, sometimes a girl has just gotta let it out. Looking forward to the posts.

Moments said...

Okay now I'm back!

Sweetheart, I feel you o! That girl??? what's she looking for up and down sef?? I need to investigate the gal o! I just might have heard of her sef. Where in the US was she living sef??

The point is you need to decide what you want to do with Ex. If you're sure he's the one for you, then stop playing hard to get and just go with it. Don't let it be cos you have an ultimatum from your mum & dad though cos the truth is with or without marriage, they'll love you the same.

You need to take a decision for you and you alone. You know men, the way they are, if you do too much shakara, he'll just decide to face this US mademoiselle and in fact their marriage will be the fastest you've heard in a long time and you wont be able to understand how.

Pray and ask God to help you, to lead you and help you make the right choice. Will be praying along with you.

It is well. Take care...

temmy tayo said...

@Daddy's Girl: I love my mum, tho she can be a pain in the butts sometimes. lol. Will soon post about them jare. Watch out.

@Moments: Whatever will be will be honey. I still want EX and whatever I want, I always get.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

temmylicious you know you be fine babe, don't worry, I trust this God that we serve He will come through, If there is anything I've learnt this past year, is however we fidget and complain and cry and overwhelm ourself with the lack of direction, the Lord is busy doing His work, Me I have serious testimony to tell you, and the same God that Has come through for me will surely come through for you, I KNOW, sho ti gbo, just have patienec small, it is just about to happen.

Have a blessed week.

36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGS said...

babes just follow ur heart jare!!!!!

BiMbyLaDs** said...

gO TEMMY!! whatever u want u get!! lol.. i love that..

O my sister.. the guy will come flying back into ur arms o.. shogbo oko mi! lol.. as for the other girl.. ILL DEAL With HER for u.. warrabish.. abuja abi? ive got it covered!

Azuka said...

Well, no you didn't disgrace us.

mochafella said...

The skeptic in me wonders if you have independent confirmation of the relocation to Abuja. Could Ex be trying to force your hand?

Eyin'ju Oluwa said...

It's good to cry and let it all out. Nawa for the sister o, what is she looking for in Nigeria ke,lolol. Maybe she has other reasons sha. Anyways you've said it all, whatever you want, you always get. By God's grace all is well, adura naa ni, and eyi to da ni Olorun ma shey! Cant wait to see your wedding website*wink*

NaijaBloke said...

Welcome back.

All has been said and you know me I be Ex supporter from day 1..LOL

Take care

naijabelle said...

ahhh temmy, you'll be just fine.So you were doing a scene from the movies ehn walking in the rain and crying, wipe your tears sweerie it can only get better from now on.Sound advice from mama temmy, very well said!

DiAmOnD hawk said...

madam temmy.... whatever is yours is yours and no one can take that away from you in Jesus' Name... the prayer now is that your discernment be on high that you recognize it!

Demi said...

Oh my goodness! What is wrong with yall? What now? Omo, you disgraced me o, don't mind DG and Azuka o, just thank your stars that I wasn't there to give you a serious 'igbarun'! I would have wipered your face for you seriously!! What was all that crying for? Ehn? I say what for? You better go to that Naija and possess your possession before someone else possesses it for you! Some yeye gal like dat will come after 15 years and just snatch your man like that and you will just stay in this shitty country and just be crying in the rain!

Okay, what is her phone number and address? This must to stop today! Did you not tell her that though 'dada' cannot fight, she has a sister that is mean? I no get time for all these sme-sme o. You are a big chick now and life isn't gonna be easier just because of you so you better tie your oja and do face this squarely!

Infact, I dey go book ticket for me and you today! I go pack all your load carry go Naija go meat Mr. man! Yes! Don't beg me oh!

ExcitedJade said...

go temmy jare, no mind any yeey girl...wetin she dey find up and down, she be devil? my dear, i feel u greatly..God will give u the best man jare, no kill urself sogbo, temmylicious me, oko ti e lo ma fe, d guy that will be 3-in-1(husband, father and brother).....

Anonymous said...

Lol @ desola's comment.

Really just stay in touch with you inner self. you'll know what to do. The way you talk about Ex its obvious to all that your heart has stayed with him despite (watever) so, what are you waiting for dear?

temmy tayo said...

@LOASCM:Thank you my hun, cant wait for a proper testimony. I know it is well.

@36inches: I gerrit. U go hear!lol

@bimbylads: i trust u jare, another bimby is a counterfeit.

@Azuka: thanks, thot i did.

@Mochafella: U think so?

@Omosewa: crying is good for the soul. I know.

LondonBuki said...

Hey TemmyT,

I hope things work out for you. God will grant you your heart's desires.

No more posing o!

Take care and have a beautiful week!

temmy tayo said...

@Naijabloke: shey me i kuku have a feeling you are related to EX!

@LNC:I am actually contemplating acting now u know. A kuku fit mi.

@Diamond Hawk:That is the spirit my dear. Luv u, thanks.

@:Desola: I love you more than you know babes. Thank u.

temmy tayo said...

@Babsbeta: Connecting with my inner self. Really. THanks

@London Buki: Thanks hun, no more posing.

AMEBO said...

Ok the crying in the rain is COOLLLLLLLLLLL( ahaha) like in the movies, i did that once, EX was giving me HELL ( will tell u guys abt it soon) & i needed to cry without anyone seeing me, it got cloudy went outside oh and can u imagine the rain no gree fall. Rubbish!!!

Ok abt that chick relocating to Nija, hmm u need to decide fast if u want him, if u do then let him know so that that sis doesnt stand a chance, but dont be hard on urself, God will give u what is truly urs and what would make u happy, and if it is him then "shikenan" na your own be that, no shaking.

Do u know the gals stats/details"? make we send pple ambush am.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Egbon mi, wey this babe? U say na Abuja she dey. I know some area boyz for there, u want them to give her # 2 or # 3 rushing (lol)? U just place ur order.

Anyway, i beg u don't do shakara for too longo. If u're feeling Ex make u do quick sharp sharp 'cos me i want to chop wedding 'akara oyinbo o."

May God continue to bless you and uphold you- Amen. Fear not for he who watches over u neither slumbers nor sleeps and he'll wrap his loving arms around u always, esp. when u feel so down.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Ehen even life of a stranger yarned small yoruba for here, "sho ti gbo."

Egbon mi ti o kere, i sabi say u be go-getter. "Whatever u want, u get" Yes ke.

Demi said...

cherub, are you minding Temmy? I say, Are you minding Temmy? She's crying tears now o, wetin she go cry is she go hia say bobo wed baby? I say wetin she go cry? Blood?

Temmy, your shakara is too much men and it's clear that you still love bobo but your stubborness will not gree you go! me i'm telling you o, a ghel wen live for obodo oyinbo that long come decide say she go move carry go naija mean business o, I don tell you o.

Move your bag and baggages go meet oga before another man get belle for am o. Na my one naira twenty kobo be dat! Ehen, no tok say i no tok so o.

Unknown said...

Hmm.. Good to have you back. Oya blog on.. let's read. ( don't dissapear again oh!:)

Unknown said...

Hmm.. Good to have you back. Oya blog on.. let's read. ( don't dissa again oh!:)

Unknown said...

Temmy,
There is this bible passage that talks about possessing your possesions. You were crying in the rain huh? Continue crying. If you arent careful (God Forbid) wedding IV's will be out in no time and you will still be there crying in the rain.

So I sound harsh? Why shouldnt I? After all ur shakara - YOU ARE CRYING IN THE RAIN!?!?! HABA!!

Vera Ezimora said...

So what are you saying? That you have given up on ex???

Nooooooo!

I like him, Temmy. Don't u care about my feelings??

Simply Gorgeous said...

Temmy everybody goes down that road. It hink it was your frustration that made you cry. Anyhoo, how are you feeling now?

Teva said...

Aww! First, welcome back.
2nd, we've all been there at one time or the other, just hang in there!

soul said...

Temmy,
I don't understand a few things here. Is this man your ex or not? if he is your ex then what does it matter that some girl he had an affair with is relocating his city?.

another thing I don't understand.. did ex say he had a one time only thing with this girl? because it doesn't sound like that. One doesn't necessarily get into 'what are your long term plans' with a 'one time only booty call'.

You say that you love this guy, no doubt..well, if he loves you and you trust him then why are you soo worried about another girl moving in, besides.. isn't he your ex?.

Temmy if you want to get back with your ex, why don't you just tell him but add that you have trust issues because of what happened?.
Why don't you be upfront with him, and ask him where he stands.

Something is not right here and although I know it's scary to know the whole details I think you deserve to really figure out for yourself why you think this man is the man for you.

So what if you marry this guy and the girl still moves back to Abuja?. what then? would you be happy knowing that she is out there and is a temptation for your man (you seem to think she is).

The other thing here is, this is not the girls problem. She can move from here to timbuktu if your ex doesn't like her, then it won't mean a damn thing.
If your ex likes her 'like that' then the issue is with him. He would need to make up his mind or let you go, so you move on, get over him and meet that man who will love you enough to be faithful to you.

Aren't you Temmytayo?. Temmylicious?. If he can't recognise the importance and beauty of you now.. then marrying him will not make him recognise it.

You seem to really love this guy, no doubt.. but after that what else?. if you can't trust him what will you do when you marry him?.
Is that the kind of life you want to get ready for?.

You have been thinking with your heart which is a beautiful thing. But is your heart taking control and ignoring all the warning signs?

You seem to have put a lot into this, what if this is God's way of saying, my child, it's enough. this one is not for you.

ever thought about it like that?

Demi said...

The soul never lies!

Wo, Temmy. Soul has said everything o. Now, it's your call!

temmy tayo said...

@Soul: thanks babes for all u said. Thanks

@Vera: anything for you Vera. Back to EX i go.

Konko-Jabele said...

Man...Soul should be a pastor or somfin with her award winning sermon. I've been a silent reader of Temmy's blog for about 6 months now. Now if this is a movie, this is da part where Temmy puts an end to the suspense and marry this guyman. Haba, wetin man go do again? Kudos to all the people who were blunt in their remarks...Vera, Desola, Moments... Temmy, E don do! Dont listen to all these comments about "what will be will be" It's been a while that I was in church but I still remember my mom's night devotions teachings in those days: "God has given us da freewill to choose" What am I saying? - what is suppose to be might end up on da next flight running away from us if we dont act on it! No be only drugs get expiry date, you know. If na prayer, Pray. If na fast, Fast. Just get it over with sharp sharp so you can start blogging on the funny stuffs that your kids (twin boys) did last night. Easy Sis!