Monday, 18 December 2006

Temmy is up for SALE!

A big thank you to everyone that prayed for my brother to continue to rest in peace. It was just an emotional Friday for me. Just tears and tears!

Saturday, i thought it berra not to stay at home and mope cos everywhere i turned to in my house, it was as if i was seeing my brother's face. Then i called Mama Temmy to let her know that i may be losing it o, luckily for me Baba Temmy sef dey house and both of them talked and pray with me for some time. Am i not just lucky to have them??

They should have just left me feeling that lovey dovey for them jejely but trust the duo the issue of Temmy getting married came up and wahala started. I was meant to spend Christmas in Spain but my mummy vehemently refused.

She said and I quote '' Temitayo, stop running. Ki lo n le e so fun mi iwo omo yi''. Do you think you are still a child? Bukky is having her 2nd baby in a few months, Deola's wedding is next week.....................................

Mummy i am not running i nearly shouted at her on Saturday. Her husband did not help matters when he said: I am giving you till May 2007 to make up your mind. To all the eligible and reasonable bachelors out there Temmy is for sale!

I am going to spend the new year listening to their rantings, God help me.

Random Talk:

I am just tired of all the uncertainty in this world. A family friend to a close friend(long one) got married in August 2006 and in fact it is one of the most sought after wedding webbies of 2006. Both husband and wife gushing with undying love, only for my friend to call me crying that the guy has been beating his new wife of 3 months. Serious blue-black kinda bashing, when no be say the man na Mike Tyson. I am not so happy blogging about this but it is really sad..

Another friend of mine that went to same Uni called me just before I decided to type this post that he has been cheating on his wife of 5 months and he doesn't know how to stop. First, i wanted to kill him for telling me. Do i look like a Pastor that can pray for him to stop, he said he couldn't tell awon boys for fear of them encouraging him to go on. He knew i was going to tongue lash him... did i do that??? I finished him. Prayed with him afterwards. And guess what he has been cheating with the babe he dated before he married his wife. Do we then believe that love/lust never dies???

I am falling in love with purple: got a pair of purple sandals on Saturday. My Xmas pressie to myself! What can a single gal do.

For the men willing to buy me:

10 things I want in a man:

1. Fear of God.
2. Intelligence.
3. Height should be between 5'9 and 6'2.
4. A good paying job.
5. Must not like eating the way men eat. 2x a day will be ace.
6. Must love watching Naija home videos.
7. He must not complain when i read M&B when he is talking about something serious. I can multi task.
8. He must not complain about my way of spending money on irrelevant things.
9. He must adore my family + the pets, 3 dogs and enough rabbits!
10.Man enough to marry ME.

24 comments:

LondonBuki said...

I REALLY hope I am first!

LondonBuki said...

LOL!!! Parents oh!!!!

Temmy FOR SALE ke? No, let us set up an Auction... to the highest bidder. Doesn't that sound more fun?

As for these marriage issues - I don't want to waste space on my blog about how much I am not even thinking of marriage right now. There are too many awful things going on, people thinking they are in love - next thing, honeymoon and beautiful wedding is over, cheating, PROBLEMS, violence happens WITHIN A YEAR!!!

I know it's only God that can make a marriage last but I don't think I am ready to take that plunge anytime soon, As much as I trust in the Lord - Marriage is so not on my top 10 things to do.

Enough about me... We have to organise a serious auction oh. I like your list - very good start ;-)

Enjoy your week :-)

P.S. Put up a pic of your shoes!!! Let us see!

funmitheblogger said...

Lol! Your parents are funny sort of remind me of the conversations btw my mum and I last year.His timing is the best my dear there are alot of married people who are very miserable.

Glad you are feeling better about your lil brother. It is well.

angie said...

i love ur parents...lol.so if by may 2007, u don't come home with a husband wat will happen??
hmmmm ur list is very interesting!!
lol@Must not like eating the way men eat. 2x a day will be ace.
its sooo sad the way marriages are breaking up before u can spell the word MARRIAGE

Anonymous said...

wow! i think the next time your parents give you an ultimatum, you should remind them of the pitfalls of rushing into marraige---aka the stories of your friends.
Marraige is a good thing, but good Lord, it is not something to be rushed into at all!

Biodun said...

lol, eat twice a day, ur joking right? Rabbits, wot do u want 2 do with rabbit this girl, lol
Your parents r on ur tail ehn, that is wot they r there 4 I guess!
Glad u r much better now!

Tuneday said...

Daddy has spoken :-) May 2007 its is ! I know parents say this things out of love but what are you suppose to do? When they make references to ppl in naija that has gotten married, I answer this is the price we pay for coming abroad.

Good luck, Pray you find a man that has all the qualities you want soon....May is around d corner...take care !

zioner said...

na wa o LOL. that ultimatum is 'one in town'. temmy, you should have respectfully asked your dad what he plans to do if the ultimatum is not reached. my mum was on my case for a while too but i prayed seriously about it cos we were always fighting on the fone (not healthy). believe me, since the day i prayed (months ago), my mother has not mentioned a word about marriage to me...hehehehehe. God's time is the best jo. Have a blessed week.

Cherub said...

Ultimatum ke? No o. But it's really sad the way marriages are breaking up these days. As for those young couple, may God help them resolve their issues o. I'm sure i must have viewed some of the webbies sef. 'cos of u i signed up for a gmail account so i can post comments on ur blog.

AUNTY DESOLA A.K.A IYAWO MR. PRO A.K.A. EX- WIFE OF NAIJABLOKE:

Why can't i access ur blog again? It says only to invited readers, abeg invite me nau.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

wow - an ultimatum - not even up to a year - 5 months too - where will one find a man to date and know in 5 months thats the dude. This is serious. I love your parents they are cracking me up already. Luckily for me my dad isn't really bothered. Whenever is OK. LOL.

Marriage is already difficult enough especially with the pitfalls if a right decision isnt made. Like belle says - next time they bring it up - give them the examples of the failed ones you know - Im sure they will say its not your portion, more reason why you should choose wisely.

You have plenty of suitors, its just a matter of taking the right one.

Daddy's Girl said...

Wow... I love your list of 10 things you want. I love a girl who knows what she wants - may the Lord grant you the desires of your heart. Amen.
I smiled when I read about your conversation with mum and dad. Parents - they always speak their minds! Thank God for them o.
Na wa o, the stories are plenty - 2 people so 'right for each other'. They get married and it's hell for one or both of them. This marriage thing, our eyes must be wide open and we must pray!

azuka said...

You're kidding aren't you?

By the time you find a man who'd acquiesce to your demands, you must also be ready to accept his, and they're not going to be pleasant.

Why do people want to go into a marriage without changing but expect the other person to change for them? :-D

For sale? What's the going price? I'll open the bid with $10...

temmy tayo said...

@Cherub: thanks jareblogger is turning into somming else without this gmail account.
I dont know what is wrong with Aunty Desola's blog too.

@Zioner: i will start praying abourit today!

@LOASCM: are u minding my parents?? 5 months ko 1 month ni.

@Daddy's girl: it is good for a woman to know what she wants so she can make a good choice. But whne u think about all the i love you tori torun and then the boy starts to beat the girl 2 weeks into marriage... wahala dey o.

@Azuka: raise up your hands and close ur eyes, a whole me $10!

TP said...

I love colour purple too, I just got myself a nice purple dress!

Funny enough, I had a similar talk with a friend of mine. This guy called me in a panic to confess that he had been sleeping with two girls and he was feeling guilty. All 3 parties involved are in the same church. What did he expect me to say? It is really sad to hear stories of marriages in trouble after a few months. It breaks my heart because the couple didn't think deeply about what their commitment really means.
Sweetie, please don't let mum and dad put pressure on you. Someone told me that parents are usually after their own glory.

Anonymous said...

Lmao.. your parents are jokers forreal oh... I sort of had a conversation with my mom over the weekend about dudes and her telling me what kind of guy she doens't want me to get involved in.. lol. and i'm 20 oh.. imagine in a few years... lol... but worreva jare! lmao@ you being for sale... the mills and boons one is true for me too oh! my own height.. 6ft tall na management.. i want 6ft 4 inches... or a little taller! dang @ the man cheating on his wife and the other one beating his wife up.. terrible stuff... i'll panfry someone's nuts.. and i'm not even joking about that... I've seen way too much pain and fucked up shit to jump into marriage oh.. if it happens at 25,30 or 35.. he has to be right oh b4 i go that route!

Anonymous said...

Lmao.. your parents are jokers forreal oh... I sort of had a conversation with my mom over the weekend about dudes and her telling me what kind of guy she doens't want me to get involved in.. lol. and i'm 20 oh.. imagine in a few years... lol... but worreva jare! lmao@ you being for sale... the mills and boons one is true for me too oh! my own height.. 6ft tall na management.. i want 6ft 4 inches... or a little taller! dang @ the man cheating on his wife and the other one beating his wife up.. terrible stuff... i'll panfry someone's nuts.. and i'm not even joking about that... I've seen way too much pain and fucked up shit to jump into marriage oh.. if it happens at 25,30 or 35.. he has to be right oh b4 i go that route!

zaiprincesa said...

OMOGE, ma ta ara e oh..lol..u r not up for sale oh..u r single and searching is more like it....sale ke?..at all oh..Anyhow, naija guys and their fists sha If they r not cheating on u, they r brushing you. Ahn ahn!..May God help us all...

Teva said...

As an aside, "what is it with bloggers and being the first to post a comment?" LOL that said, My darling temmy, now that you are up for sale, i got me some guys who would be willing to buy you for a bargain price of half a mill...good enough?
Gal the one that creeps me out the most is the deal with the cheating married men, esp newly weds....y marry in the first place?? Gal, since i just got unceremoniously 'dumped' recently, i cant say there's any better option...there alot of bad fruits out there, but hey there are still sweet and wonderful men in the midst of them...so

NaijaBloke said...

So now I have to play a matching game here too as u have been playing with me.

Oya send me ur application with a full size pic make I do some research for u..lol

U have a nice week

Dilch said...

Hey Babe
Haven't been here in a while, missed it. Sorry to hear that you lost your blog, and really really really sorry to hear about your brother
About this post though, I'm glad you can laugh about the conversations, you deal with it better than I would, that's for sure...

Soul said...

hmmm.
what if he
1) loves but doesn't fear God
3) is 5'8 or 6'3"
4) doesn't have a good paying job, but finishes at 3pm on week days, and would love to get home, cook for you and pick up the kids until you get home
5)what if he eats 4 times a day but cooks for the entire house
6)What if he doesn't like watching them, but buys them for you, because he knows you like watching them?
7)what if he complains about because he is so into you that he wants your undivided attention and values everything you have to say. What if he likes eye contact with you during conversations
8)What if he does complain becuase he wants to build a family with you and thinks that your family unit needs to re-prioritise what is important.
what if he realises that those irrelevant things just fill up your apartment (you know london apartments are tiny) and he would rather you guys save up the money and spend it doing things together?
9) What if he doesn't adore your family but he tolerates them because he loves you. What if wants cats asa well.. and what if instead of rabbits he wants loadsa hamsters (I was going to say rats, but I think that's pushing it a bit)
10) What if he is man enough to marry you, but your definition of 'man enough' excludes him.
(smile)

I think giving you an ultimatum on May 2007 is kinda harsh, but I also know that in Naija, sometimes people prefer that you marry and have problems within a marriage which they 'think' can be worked on, as opposed to being single.

I think that's hilarious but hey ho. What do I know?

temmy tayo said...

@Soul: this one is soulful o.

You are on point but i dont want a man that lieks food. It irritates me. I don;t mean that he shouldnt eat but eating like a buffon is annoying to me.

Point 3 is really good cos i know money isnt everything but remember that my mouth don tear how i go manage without buysing anything new in a month. I am vain i know.

He doesnt have to adore my family but he must like them for what they are to me.

SOUL:mind your self o. U have got me thinking..........

Soul said...

lol (smile)

Oro said...

Hey T, if you're up for sale... i just might be interested. Of all that you listed, i can quite well roll with 'em but not everyone of 'em. O le ma na'wo any how and awon naija movies yen ma le di e baby. I'm sorry to say but won cut e.

ko condider e o.

Merry christmas
Oro