Everyone seems to think I should let EX know that he has been found out. Good thinking on the part of the people that made the suggestion. I kept saying at my own time.Time to confess: I was scared of letting him go. I was scared of admitting he cheated, he is still doing it and whatever.....
I kept acting as if everything was ok.
Lastnite,I called him.
Excerpts:(very soon I go dey write fo Nollywood,with all my excerpts skills)LOL

Temmy: How was work today?
Him:Twas fine,thank God. Urs?
Temmy:cool,thanks.
Temmy: I have been thinking..
Him:about?
Temmy:Us
Him:What about us?
Temmy: I think we are done.
Him:with?
Temmy:with us.
Him: what do u mean, are u......... (cut him short)
Temmy: I am ok,I am fine,I am making sense. I decided to let go of what can hurt me in 15 years time. I decided to untie myself from what has been hurting me for weeks. On a lighter note: I have decided to stop buying call cards every minute!
Him:U cant be serious
Temmy:I have never been this serious in my life.
Him: Have you thought about this.
Temmy:I have,a billion times. Since I found about O.B (the other lady).
Him: I am finished.(like hell he is).
Temmy:lets talk later, I have an early start in the morning. Sleep well.

Surprisingly, I did not cry.I deserve an applause. I slept like a log.Dreamt grandpa told me I should always pray before making any decision. (didn't my mum say it isn't good to see dead people in one's dreams) but I know grandpa wont hurt me now abi.
He called me back at 2am to ask if I was serious? Imagine! I said no,it was APRIL FOOL! Wake up sweetheart,it is the 1st of September and I am dead serious!
I disconnected the call and put my phone on silent. A gal needs her beauty sleep now. I woke up at 7am to find 27 missed calls and 10 text messages. 20 out of the missed calls was from boyfi. 3 from his best friend, I am sure he disturbed the poor boy's sleep.Wicked! 4 from his sister that lives here. Text messages from him says he can explain. Explain what???!!!!
I returned bestfriend's calls on my way to work. Didn't allow him talk, just greeted him warmly and told him to forget whatever he was planning to tell me.IT IS OVER.
Called his sister, I couldn't pull my James Bond trick with her tho. She said she is coming to see me later today.Wetin she wan talk now? ehn? This people should just leave me alone.


Another nice mail i got from my friend at work:

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think, "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.


All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when men always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices and to prepare herself.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them and
an entire lifetime to forget them