Now, this is a very controversial topic but the truth is it has been boggling my mind for a while now. I know that if we do a poll there is bound to be different answers as to why they should make heaven.Some people may never come by this blog again sef but well....
Talking from personal and other peoples experiences;
1. It is the second wife that in most cases makes the father of the house to stop caring, loving, and spending on his family.
2. The woman can also make it possible for the husband to disown his kids just because they refuse to accept new ''mummy''.
3. I have heard of instances of a father moving from his palatial home to live in a room and parlour with new wife.(now I call that true love, abi).
What on earth would make a 25year old woman that has the whole world in front of her decide that she wants to be a second wife! In this generation where people pray fire for fire. She just decided she'd rather have all her husband's kids and wife wake up and curse her every minute of the day. For instance, God forbid this happening oh, if my husband decides to have mistress not to talk of a wife outside shebi na just to do 7 days of white fasting that God should eliminate the woman. Shikena. Na so she go just die because of a man.lol
Nah, in all seriousness now. Can somebody please tell me if any second wife that entered the liaison willing or unwillingly make heaven. May God forgive us all sha.
Friday, 10 July 2009
Saturday, 4 July 2009
IT'S PARRY TIME OH.TICKETS ARE LIMITED.
If only I can tell my mum, mother in law and in fact everybody telling me to celebrate my son's first year birthday then surely I will be SCREAMING SHUT UP PLEASE!
There is no sense in celebrating one year birthday, not that I do not appreciate God but does the recipient(well lack of word to use) understand why everybody wants to kiss, hug and cuddle him all at once. NO! He will probably cry all through the day and if one is lucky he can sleep all through sha..
Now i am dreading picking my mum or mother in law's call cos after all the normal how are you, the next topic is BIRTHDAY! So what are we going to put in the party packs, which venue, what is he going to wear. Are we making butter cake or cup cake? I am fed up oh you two.
What am I going to do now? I went for my friend's son 1 year party today. The boy slept,woke up and cry very well when he saw all the faces gathered to kiss him. So after the parry I called a few numbers that were stuffed in my bag by aunties and mummies as party planners. The least bill I was given was N150,000.00k for the venue and bouncing castle only! What happens to the food,the party packs and drinks nko. God forbid evil thing oh. How on earth am i gonna put down 250k for a parry? When I Can start a business with that sum of money.
Anyways just had a change of mind and I will be sending this text out to my friends and family
''Due to popular demand, my husband and I have decided to hold a party in honour of our cute little one. Venue is the Civic Centre and time is 4pm till dawn. Gate fee is N5,000 and we also have Aso Ebi for N15,000. Your presence will be highly appreciated. Come one,come all.
I am so sure after seeing this text no one will bother me again. Haba!
There is no sense in celebrating one year birthday, not that I do not appreciate God but does the recipient(well lack of word to use) understand why everybody wants to kiss, hug and cuddle him all at once. NO! He will probably cry all through the day and if one is lucky he can sleep all through sha..
Now i am dreading picking my mum or mother in law's call cos after all the normal how are you, the next topic is BIRTHDAY! So what are we going to put in the party packs, which venue, what is he going to wear. Are we making butter cake or cup cake? I am fed up oh you two.
What am I going to do now? I went for my friend's son 1 year party today. The boy slept,woke up and cry very well when he saw all the faces gathered to kiss him. So after the parry I called a few numbers that were stuffed in my bag by aunties and mummies as party planners. The least bill I was given was N150,000.00k for the venue and bouncing castle only! What happens to the food,the party packs and drinks nko. God forbid evil thing oh. How on earth am i gonna put down 250k for a parry? When I Can start a business with that sum of money.
Anyways just had a change of mind and I will be sending this text out to my friends and family
''Due to popular demand, my husband and I have decided to hold a party in honour of our cute little one. Venue is the Civic Centre and time is 4pm till dawn. Gate fee is N5,000 and we also have Aso Ebi for N15,000. Your presence will be highly appreciated. Come one,come all.
I am so sure after seeing this text no one will bother me again. Haba!
Tuesday, 30 June 2009
Help! He is abusing me and I can't leave him...
Oh well, to my concerned peeps I am not the one being abused but that statement was screamed down at me by one of my 3 best friends! Men! What do we do with and without them? That is just a very big question that I REALLY DO NOT KNOW the answer to.
Maybe I should start by telling you the whole story sef. I have been friends with my ''friend'' for my than 14 years so i can confidently say I know her very well. We have been through everything imaginable together, loving, being loved, heartbreaks, you name it. She had this perfect or well near perfect relationship when we were in Uni but somehow things just went wrong,thanks to the 2 people involved. (no shifting blames here).
Anyways,after the breakup, she has been in and out of relationships with people I can tag ''idiots'' if I am not being biased. I mean she is my friend I am supposed to support her anyhoo. As I dey talk sha, nothing came out of about 3 or 4 relationships and as women now, we always feel it is''our'' fault. I still dunno why women are like this sha.
I am even getting emotional, let me just cut the story short jare cos Mr husband here is wondering why I am not in bed at 12am. So she met this guy, perfect in all aspects. Treated her like a queen from the beginning and she fell hard and flat.
Well, I had my reservations from the onset but then in a situation where a woman is in her 30's and all her friends are married or in serious relatiosnhips then you know that it takes the grace of God not to fight if/when you give some unsolicited advise. So well i decided to keep praying for her.
But she noticed this guy doesn't like when she greets people on the street. She gave instances of meeting up with old Uni mates that are guys and this guy actually go bunkers just because she stopped to hug and say hello to men! What kain rubbish is this one I thot to myself. So there was a particular day she went shopping for the 2 of them oh and she had so many bags to carry, She was lucky enough to meet an old fried who volunteered to drop her at the nearest train station, while she was in his car, boyfriend called. She had to tell him she was even lucky she met someone who is dropping her at the station so he should meet her at the station and blah blah. She said I needed to hear all the guy said to her on the phone, swearing and cursing them both out. So sure she was cheating or how come she is always meeting someone that wants to help her and stuff.
So Mr husband to be asked my friend to move in with him and she did. Few weeks after, he proposed to her. Bummer you'd say abi? The petty fights over silly things never stopped. Fighting over staying too long on the computer, you talk too much with your friends. Why do you guys always say the same things when you talk( I have known women to repeat the same things over and over and we LOVE it, don't we?)
She said to me that this guy constantly hurls hurting words at her and then later go on his knees to say sorry. This is just mental and emotional abuse of a girl that is seeking love and attention from the man she loves.
There was a day she had serious menstrual cramps and she was in serious pain and crying, guy walks in from work and couldn't say any other thing apart from and I quote " you need to get a grip on yourself woman, you are not a baby''. For any woman out there that suffers from serious menstrual cramps I am sure you can imagine the pain!
As usual they had a heated argument one day and the guy actually shouted and said to her and I quote " I am so glad I have not married you oh.So this is the kind of woman that you are" I personally know that for me that would have been the final straw! I TOLD HER TO QUIT.Was that too much for me to say? Am I being insensitive to a lonely girl's plight?
Maybe I should start by telling you the whole story sef. I have been friends with my ''friend'' for my than 14 years so i can confidently say I know her very well. We have been through everything imaginable together, loving, being loved, heartbreaks, you name it. She had this perfect or well near perfect relationship when we were in Uni but somehow things just went wrong,thanks to the 2 people involved. (no shifting blames here).
Anyways,after the breakup, she has been in and out of relationships with people I can tag ''idiots'' if I am not being biased. I mean she is my friend I am supposed to support her anyhoo. As I dey talk sha, nothing came out of about 3 or 4 relationships and as women now, we always feel it is''our'' fault. I still dunno why women are like this sha.
I am even getting emotional, let me just cut the story short jare cos Mr husband here is wondering why I am not in bed at 12am. So she met this guy, perfect in all aspects. Treated her like a queen from the beginning and she fell hard and flat.
Well, I had my reservations from the onset but then in a situation where a woman is in her 30's and all her friends are married or in serious relatiosnhips then you know that it takes the grace of God not to fight if/when you give some unsolicited advise. So well i decided to keep praying for her.
But she noticed this guy doesn't like when she greets people on the street. She gave instances of meeting up with old Uni mates that are guys and this guy actually go bunkers just because she stopped to hug and say hello to men! What kain rubbish is this one I thot to myself. So there was a particular day she went shopping for the 2 of them oh and she had so many bags to carry, She was lucky enough to meet an old fried who volunteered to drop her at the nearest train station, while she was in his car, boyfriend called. She had to tell him she was even lucky she met someone who is dropping her at the station so he should meet her at the station and blah blah. She said I needed to hear all the guy said to her on the phone, swearing and cursing them both out. So sure she was cheating or how come she is always meeting someone that wants to help her and stuff.
So Mr husband to be asked my friend to move in with him and she did. Few weeks after, he proposed to her. Bummer you'd say abi? The petty fights over silly things never stopped. Fighting over staying too long on the computer, you talk too much with your friends. Why do you guys always say the same things when you talk( I have known women to repeat the same things over and over and we LOVE it, don't we?)
She said to me that this guy constantly hurls hurting words at her and then later go on his knees to say sorry. This is just mental and emotional abuse of a girl that is seeking love and attention from the man she loves.
There was a day she had serious menstrual cramps and she was in serious pain and crying, guy walks in from work and couldn't say any other thing apart from and I quote " you need to get a grip on yourself woman, you are not a baby''. For any woman out there that suffers from serious menstrual cramps I am sure you can imagine the pain!
As usual they had a heated argument one day and the guy actually shouted and said to her and I quote " I am so glad I have not married you oh.So this is the kind of woman that you are" I personally know that for me that would have been the final straw! I TOLD HER TO QUIT.Was that too much for me to say? Am I being insensitive to a lonely girl's plight?
Friday, 12 June 2009
NEPA oh! Please I am tired of the sound of the generator.....
So it is no gist that yours truly followed my heart/love to move back to my father land. But NEPA abi na PHCN???? Are they planning to frustrate me?? What have we done to deserve this from NEPA oh sorry PHCN in the Ikeja axis of lagos?
Why do we have to go for 3 days without light?
If dating a top PHCN oga will give us light I will gladly donate some babe in the neighbourhood who is a ''do it all''.
I can't even wear all my sexy night dresses thank to heat na to sleep naked and i end up feeling and looking like Iya Awero.I cant even cuddle up with boo in the heat, you know there is a difference between fan and AC now. The generator runs 24 hours! The noise from everybody's gen at night sef makes me feel I live in a quarry.... God, please save Nigeria.
Ehen jare on a lighter note, I noticed that it has been raining every friday night for the past 3 weeks and boo will still insisit on going out as usual. Is that he doesnt understand the ''term'' or ''act'' of rain? Rain means stay at home and play with your family. Until I start to raise nose na so the boy go dey iron shirt and look for shoes to nack. This men sef why do they feel that going out is the best way to relax after a long week. Imagine if I decide to hang out on a friday night too... I may just do it once or twice to drive home my message. The sad thing is I will just punish myself that day sha in all honesty. Going out is just not my thing, I'd rather stay at home and watch youruba movies, read city people, check facebook and then flip through the pages of mills and boon.
I am even thinking of doing something drastic,maybe I should....ok I won't.
Raining now, DSTV has gone off thanks to the rain so I cant even watch my fav Ellen Degeneres show. Boo is out, lil boo is sleeping. Facebook is dry, the generators are killing me with the noise.
The cycle continues.....
Why do we have to go for 3 days without light?
If dating a top PHCN oga will give us light I will gladly donate some babe in the neighbourhood who is a ''do it all''.
I can't even wear all my sexy night dresses thank to heat na to sleep naked and i end up feeling and looking like Iya Awero.I cant even cuddle up with boo in the heat, you know there is a difference between fan and AC now. The generator runs 24 hours! The noise from everybody's gen at night sef makes me feel I live in a quarry.... God, please save Nigeria.
Ehen jare on a lighter note, I noticed that it has been raining every friday night for the past 3 weeks and boo will still insisit on going out as usual. Is that he doesnt understand the ''term'' or ''act'' of rain? Rain means stay at home and play with your family. Until I start to raise nose na so the boy go dey iron shirt and look for shoes to nack. This men sef why do they feel that going out is the best way to relax after a long week. Imagine if I decide to hang out on a friday night too... I may just do it once or twice to drive home my message. The sad thing is I will just punish myself that day sha in all honesty. Going out is just not my thing, I'd rather stay at home and watch youruba movies, read city people, check facebook and then flip through the pages of mills and boon.
I am even thinking of doing something drastic,maybe I should....ok I won't.
Raining now, DSTV has gone off thanks to the rain so I cant even watch my fav Ellen Degeneres show. Boo is out, lil boo is sleeping. Facebook is dry, the generators are killing me with the noise.
The cycle continues.....
Saturday, 6 June 2009
Oh death, where is thy sting. Goke and Tokunbo....please rest in peace.
This past few days......just so full of events.
God, I am never going to complain again about whatever situation I find myself. I just want to keep thanking you.
The passage of this two great guys opened my eyes to another side to life. This world is useless. Vanity upon vanity, we suffer, we labour, we toil but you know what? God knows when to blow the final whistle!
Tokunbo Dawodu was a happy go fellow, always full of smiles. Went to church on Wednesday for midweek service and by Thursday morning he was already dead. Cardiac arrest! He was only in his early 30's.
All his dreams, aspirations, desires.....gone. Gone forever!
Goke Jimoh....where do I start. Easy going dude. Tho I haven't seen him in a few years since he moved to America after Uni. Heard about 2 years ago that he was battling cancer but he got over it. Then my friend called me now crying.... Goke has joined the saints!
Oh God, please put an end to all this untimely death. This is enough oh.
Father please grant Tokunbo and Goke eternal rest as they join the league of fine gentlemen resting with you.
My heart is heavy.
God, I am never going to complain again about whatever situation I find myself. I just want to keep thanking you.
The passage of this two great guys opened my eyes to another side to life. This world is useless. Vanity upon vanity, we suffer, we labour, we toil but you know what? God knows when to blow the final whistle!
Tokunbo Dawodu was a happy go fellow, always full of smiles. Went to church on Wednesday for midweek service and by Thursday morning he was already dead. Cardiac arrest! He was only in his early 30's.
All his dreams, aspirations, desires.....gone. Gone forever!
Goke Jimoh....where do I start. Easy going dude. Tho I haven't seen him in a few years since he moved to America after Uni. Heard about 2 years ago that he was battling cancer but he got over it. Then my friend called me now crying.... Goke has joined the saints!
Oh God, please put an end to all this untimely death. This is enough oh.
Father please grant Tokunbo and Goke eternal rest as they join the league of fine gentlemen resting with you.
My heart is heavy.
Sunday, 24 May 2009
So, I dont close my eyes when I kiss.....
I have been meaning to write about this for about 2 weeks now but well as mama pickin concain(concern) no time jare. If I am not changing diaper, I am either cooking or sorting out their (baby and hubby's) clothes. I have never met a man so untidy in my entire life. That is story for another day.
My husband takes pride in just dropping clothes all over the room. Imagine him just coming in from work, well as a solicitor he is mostly in suits. He leaves the jacket in the living room, shirt on the floor in the room cos it is dirty, the trousers probably go on the bed and his vest/singlet right on baby's box of clothes.
I end up picking up after him and it is driving me crazy but well....I LOVE HIM.
But I need to know why men just do this. Painful!
Ehen, I was talking about not closing my eyes when I kiss,does that make me weird? Na by force? I still can't comprehend why I have to close my eyes.
I guess I became like this in those years of kissing so many toads before meeting the prince. LOL
Why wont i want to see what i want kiss. Check the mouth out for pieces of meat or vegetable lurking in between teeth or even the slightest sign of plaque~ now that is totally disgusting. I know but sorry it is the truth.
For Temmytayo if u have to kiss at all, open your eyes wide!. Maybe I am weird oh, just maybe..
My husband takes pride in just dropping clothes all over the room. Imagine him just coming in from work, well as a solicitor he is mostly in suits. He leaves the jacket in the living room, shirt on the floor in the room cos it is dirty, the trousers probably go on the bed and his vest/singlet right on baby's box of clothes.
I end up picking up after him and it is driving me crazy but well....I LOVE HIM.
But I need to know why men just do this. Painful!
Ehen, I was talking about not closing my eyes when I kiss,does that make me weird? Na by force? I still can't comprehend why I have to close my eyes.
I guess I became like this in those years of kissing so many toads before meeting the prince. LOL
Why wont i want to see what i want kiss. Check the mouth out for pieces of meat or vegetable lurking in between teeth or even the slightest sign of plaque~ now that is totally disgusting. I know but sorry it is the truth.
For Temmytayo if u have to kiss at all, open your eyes wide!. Maybe I am weird oh, just maybe..
Friday, 15 May 2009
My First Night As A Married Woman...
After all the hoola hoola pooh of planning the wedding, spending all my savings on highly frivolous things that if u ask me now are lying wasted in my wardrobe...uhmn...shebi one would definitely expect the wedding night to be erm....you know now.
Anyways, the wedding programme was all done in 5 hours which to me is the best way to get married. Why bother to spend he whole day dancing,kneeling for uncles and aunties you probably never met before the wedding day. You just might even have to contend with your friends fighting over who is the closest to the bride. Like that would be a pill to make the marriage itself work!
As i was saying jare, so we got to Lagos around 5pm and I had to wait outside for about 2 hours before my In-laws started their normal ''ritual'' of praying in the home chapel before the bride can be officially admitted.
Odikwa serious, I was already tired and was feeling very feverish. I wonder, maybe it was the thought of ''I won't be able to run away from this man oh if he pisses me off''. My parents don tell me say I no get bed space for our house again. Imagine, those people didn't even wait for me to be married before they gave my room to the new house help! I am sure I was also thinking...so here is the thing that has always been giving me shivers....I can no longer say no to ''coitus'' ok i mean love making. What if this bros that I love to bits says ''coitus'' has to be every night? Chei!
Ok, we sha used 2 hours to pray and by then I was already weak in the knees. My nose was running like a tap, eyes watery. By the end of it all I remember my brother in law guiding me upstairs to lie down for a while cos i was really weak. I could hear everyone throwing jibes at boo that he should take it easy with ''our wife'' oh.
I had my bath and changed into one of the negligees i got as a gift during my bridal shower. Uhmn, i even dabbed a touch of perfume. I laid on the bed just to catch my breath only for me to wake up at 8am the next day! I slept all through the night. Yours truly was down with fever for the next 3 days....Shame!
Anyways, the wedding programme was all done in 5 hours which to me is the best way to get married. Why bother to spend he whole day dancing,kneeling for uncles and aunties you probably never met before the wedding day. You just might even have to contend with your friends fighting over who is the closest to the bride. Like that would be a pill to make the marriage itself work!
As i was saying jare, so we got to Lagos around 5pm and I had to wait outside for about 2 hours before my In-laws started their normal ''ritual'' of praying in the home chapel before the bride can be officially admitted.
Odikwa serious, I was already tired and was feeling very feverish. I wonder, maybe it was the thought of ''I won't be able to run away from this man oh if he pisses me off''. My parents don tell me say I no get bed space for our house again. Imagine, those people didn't even wait for me to be married before they gave my room to the new house help! I am sure I was also thinking...so here is the thing that has always been giving me shivers....I can no longer say no to ''coitus'' ok i mean love making. What if this bros that I love to bits says ''coitus'' has to be every night? Chei!
Ok, we sha used 2 hours to pray and by then I was already weak in the knees. My nose was running like a tap, eyes watery. By the end of it all I remember my brother in law guiding me upstairs to lie down for a while cos i was really weak. I could hear everyone throwing jibes at boo that he should take it easy with ''our wife'' oh.
I had my bath and changed into one of the negligees i got as a gift during my bridal shower. Uhmn, i even dabbed a touch of perfume. I laid on the bed just to catch my breath only for me to wake up at 8am the next day! I slept all through the night. Yours truly was down with fever for the next 3 days....Shame!
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